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Gift question - 7/26/2008 7:17:27 PM
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TheRefinersFire
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There's a woman who really liked (or likes) me. She has shown plenty of interest, including while she was renting a room from her friend's mother, would intentionally be around when I was there unless she was working, and always participated in cooking, if not cooked by herself. She served me food and drink, most of it healthy (a BIG quality). She told me dark secrets about her past and things that were done to her that even her own father does not know. She is very close to her father.
I made the unfortunate mistake of talking about one day being married and talked about kids a few too many times around her (not always directed to her) and she that caused her stress since she was not ready for that kind of commitment. She ended up moving out of town to where her father and sister live to "go back to school" and the day before she left we were both at a wedding and she pushed and pushed me to dance with her. Dummy me, I should have jumped at the opportunity. She would not dance with anyone else and convinced me to dance with her. I never danced before that. BTW I am 29. It felt great. I wish I could go back over and over to that time.
Well, it has been one year and I had a friend ask her to call me and we spoke for about an hour -- Never mentioning any interest in each other.
I want to let her know I am still interested but subtly. So, a letter and a gift was suggested to me by an older female friend, and I agree. I have no idea what to give to her though.
I would enjoy ideas. What would you like to receive as a gift from that "lost love/like?"
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RE: Gift question - 7/26/2008 7:22:49 PM
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manda59
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For me it would be flowers - something simple but fragrant, like freesias.
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RE: Gift question - 7/26/2008 7:58:11 PM
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manda59: Thanks! Although I don't know what freesias are. Let's say I am more technologically inclined than horticulturally inclined.
And, yes, she likes flowers and all things green.
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Well, how far away is she? Is this something you can bring yourself? Flowers nice, but maybe more for a date. (I love flowers)
Great question. She lives about four hours drive away. I would have to send it by mail or courier.
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What kinds of things have you two talked about? What does she like?
She likes cooking a lot. She likes children. Word games too.
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Does she like chocolate or taffy? Some from a local family-run shop would be a nice gesture.
Chocolate and salty foods. She says it depends on her mood.
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Does she like to read? Do you know who her favorite author is? Does the author have a new book out?
Naw, she doesn't read too much.
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Does she like candles? Lots of options there ...
Good question. I don't know. I would guess so.
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Bath products are way too personal, so forget those.
I agree. Better wait for marriage if it happens.
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Is there a movie or actor/actress she really likes?
Hmmmm. There's someone but I cannot remember who it is.
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... or ... do you remember the song you danced to? Perhaps a CD with the song on it. That would be pretty romantic. 
I am going to literally wrack my brain on this one. To tell you the truth, I cannot even remember the tune. All I remember is her and how much fun we were having.
This is getting very interesting.
One thing mentioned by my friend was a fresh, live herb. Actually in a pot. I am open to suggestions.
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RE: Gift question - 7/26/2008 8:11:12 PM
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One thing mentioned by my friend was a fresh, live herb. Actually in a pot. I am open to suggestions.
What a weird suggestion! Well I'd find it totally weird if someone sent me a herb. Apart from anything else, that's a "house" gift surely, and not a personal one.
I'd still say flowers. Flowers are a celebration of beauty, a reminder of God's wonderful creation, and a little luxury. *And* (presuming you have the same sort of thing there as we do in the UK) can be ordered and paid for over the phone, or by internet, and delivered, however far away it is. I even ordered flowers from here in the UK to be sent to Houston, Texas.
A small bouquet, nothing too fancy, and not red roses. Just something pretty and fragrant.
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RE: Gift question - 7/26/2008 8:12:45 PM
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RE: Gift question - 7/27/2008 9:45:56 AM
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I personally wouldn't use enough of one individual herb to warrant having a plant of it.
And it would be hard to know what herb to get; some people don't like particular herbs, eg I really don't like basil, it's very strong.
A small lavender bush in a tub would be nice though. That way, once it's flowered, she can pick them flowers, dry them, and use them to make lavender bags to put in with her clothes.
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RE: Gift question - 7/30/2008 12:02:56 PM
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Flowers would be nice idea!
Is there anything that was inside joke ?
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RE: Gift question - 7/31/2008 3:11:41 PM
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Hi Refiners:
Is this the girl the car thread is about? Wow! You ARE smitten!
I'm with the majority here refiner's. I personally love getting flowers from my husband or something else that is a luxury and I would feel guilty buying for myself. I think most other women would agree. Perfume is lovely if she can wear it but since it has been a year since you've had contact she might think the gift too expensive. Go with the flowers and best of luck in fanning the flames.
I hope you will let us know what happens.
Yours for renewing friendships,
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RE: Gift question - 8/3/2008 3:28:52 AM
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I would want something unique.
Not the classics..like flowers, candy. Sure, they're romantic and of course I enjoy them.
But I want something different. Doesn't matter what it is...I just want something different. Be unique!
Like, a rock or something.
HAHA, just kidding. That wouldn't be a gift. But you get what I'm saying. I want something different than the classics.
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RE: Gift question - 8/4/2008 2:26:29 PM
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If you like her and she likes you, you might as well start with some little gesture. It's true that gifts are subtle, but if you want to send a message, than send a message.
I think flowers would be nice, but remember...red roses send the most romantic message. If you're not ready for that then you may want to stay away from that particular bouquet.
If you do chocolates, go for the best...such as Godiva. It says quality and class.
If she loves cooking, then I don't think a potted herb is out of the question. I would love a basil plant.
Whatever you do, make sure you take her personal interests to heart.
It lets her know that you pay attention.
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Hmmm ... I'm thinking oregano is used quite frequenty. My personal favorite is basil. Sage is nice too. Rosemary is good, but rather strong. All of these herbs will flower, and in cooking she would want to use the tender young leaves. 
