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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/1/2007 12:25:29 AM
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collie1
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((((tlims and dd)))
I was wondering about your ex having a mental illness, before I read the part where you wondered about it too.
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/1/2007 6:31:13 AM
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I am really have a hard time at work right now. There are new people, and the adjustment has been horrible. Instead of the normal - they adjust to the new environment, we have to adjust to them. Something is wrong with this picture.
I'm only hanging in with the position until something comes up on the campus where I really want to work, but if things keep remaining as bad as they are now, then I'm looking elsewhere (within the college), just to get out. I've got enough drama at home, I don't need drama at work.
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/1/2007 5:01:03 PM
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Sorry to hear of the workplace drama Lisa. It is very frustrating because that's where you spend a good amount of your waking hours at and it's tough when there's issues. Hopefully something will work out through all this for you.
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/2/2007 5:15:23 PM
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A server at Denny's ruined my day this afternoon. Asked me if I wanted the senior's portion. Now, I understand the senior age at Denny's is lower than most places (55), but there are several things going on here. First, I didn't really think I looked 55. (I'm 53.) Second, I don't think they should be asking. If I wanted the senior portion, I'd ask for the senior portion.
Am I wrong? I just really feel bummed. Denny's may have just lost a customer.
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/2/2007 9:25:55 PM
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I have seen you up close, and you don't look a day over 35.
that server needs to get their eyes checked.
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/3/2007 12:53:09 AM
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when I was 24, I bought a house, and I have lived here many years. almost all paid off.
I am lucky because I got this house before the big boom in real estate.
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/3/2007 1:29:14 AM
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Well, Steve, next time I move I'll let you know. LOL (Don't worry I won't do it during the summer)
Pam - that was really rude of the server! I would definitely say something to the management - if for no other reason, to keep it from happening to others.
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/3/2007 4:53:45 AM
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Pam - that's incredible that they did that! Yes, agreed that you should write to the corporate office. That was just not right!
Steve - kind of agree with you about being in a funk. Hope yours goes away quickly. Sorry they didn't call.
I'm mad at myself for allowing others to dictate how I feel and what I do.
I'm working today - but only for the first part of the day - I need time for me - to follow this hurricane and time to work on Brain Bowl stuff and my class and other things.
Guess my encouragement comes in knowing you all are here.
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When blood and water hit the ground.
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We were free and made alive.
The day true love died. The day true love died.
Lisa is happy THE ROWDIES ARE BACK!
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/3/2007 5:32:08 AM
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Wow, thanks for the encouragement, guys. Doer, I think you may be exaggerating just a bit! I mean 35, come on! Sheesh! Seriously, I'm sure I do look late 40's to 50, but still, it's not her place to ask me.
I wanted to say something to someone, but I was feeling angry, and I always tell myself to hold my tongue when I'm angry. But now that I've simmered down I'm ready to do something. Do you think it would be okay to find Denny's website and find an email address to write to?
Steve - what you just went through reminded me of my pastor's sermon series he just finished about disappointments, and a point he made. "Stop expecting that people won't let you down, because they will." Sounds simple enough, but I've never understood why people could be inconsiderate enough to not respond with a simple phone call or something! Oh, well. I guess that's the point. We just have to accept that there are people like that.
Lisa - I hear ya. And admire you for recognizing what you are recognizing - I've heard it said that the only thing we can control is how we respond to situations. Another tough one.
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/3/2007 2:40:11 PM
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Lisa, how is your afternoon off going? How is the Hurricane? Should this go in the questions only thread?
Well, I worked this morning - and now I'm doing Brain Bowl stuff (in between lurking in here  ). I have documents I need to get out to committee members tomorrow. AND, I have questions I need to start writing soon - they are due to the state advisor in a month.  I need to submit 48 of them - in Humanities and Natural Sciences. I can write meteorology ones off the top of my head, but will need to research stuff for the others. I've also got to set up meetings with my coaches - so we can get started recruiting and other stuff. So, while it's a day off from "work", I'm still working - but on stuff I love (yes, this is the geek in me coming out.)
But, my back is still killing me from Friday. So, I'm doing all this while relaxing in my bed.
Hurricane Felix is now at 145mph (category 4), but this is only temporary - as major hurricanes always go through fluxuations in their intensities throughout their lifespan. Right now, the northern coast of Nicaragua and Honduras are in the direct line of fire, with the southern coast of Belize next on the list.
What about you??? (and no, this is fine right here.)
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When blood and water hit the ground.
Walls we couldn't move came crashing down.
We were free and made alive.
The day true love died. The day true love died.
Lisa is happy THE ROWDIES ARE BACK!
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/3/2007 2:48:32 PM
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LOL - lucky you.
Trust me, there are days when my body says "stop", and I have no choice but to do it at that time.
Thankfully though, things at home have gotten to the point where I can make "deals" about having Sundays to myself - with no questions asked, OR no guilt because I'm not home for dinner. I was able to make both services yesterday - and that's huge! I haven't been able to do that in years. It felt great!
Good and bad news on the hospice front - but am not disclosing details.
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When blood and water hit the ground.
Walls we couldn't move came crashing down.
We were free and made alive.
The day true love died. The day true love died.
Lisa is happy THE ROWDIES ARE BACK!
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/3/2007 3:06:07 PM
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I hope it's more good news than bad about hospice.
It's a bit of both - depending on how one looks at it.
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When blood and water hit the ground.
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We were free and made alive.
The day true love died. The day true love died.
Lisa is happy THE ROWDIES ARE BACK!
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/3/2007 4:15:50 PM
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ORIGINAL: PamelaSue
A server at Denny's ruined my day this afternoon. Asked me if I wanted the senior's portion. Now, I understand the senior age at Denny's is lower than most places (55), but there are several things going on here. First, I didn't really think I looked 55. (I'm 53.) Second, I don't think they should be asking. If I wanted the senior portion, I'd ask for the senior portion.
Am I wrong? I just really feel bummed. Denny's may have just lost a customer.
I am going to go against the grain, and hope everyone still likes me when I am fhrough; I am 48; sometimes it seems that everyone between the ages of say 45 and 60 can look pretty much the same age.
Let's suppose I was a waitress on my feet all day working hard to make ends meet, a customer comes in and looks like she might possibly fit the senior discount catagory. Now since I myself have trouble making ends meet, perhaps this person does too and I could help her by saving her some money. So I ask if she wants the senior portion. The next thing I know I am in trouble because I insulted a person by misguessing their age by 2 years!
I may have been insulted at first, but then I hope I could have laughed it off.
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/3/2007 5:03:08 PM
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.Pammy
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quote:
ORIGINAL: collie1
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ORIGINAL: PamelaSue
A server at Denny's ruined my day this afternoon. Asked me if I wanted the senior's portion. Now, I understand the senior age at Denny's is lower than most places (55), but there are several things going on here. First, I didn't really think I looked 55. (I'm 53.) Second, I don't think they should be asking. If I wanted the senior portion, I'd ask for the senior portion.
Am I wrong? I just really feel bummed. Denny's may have just lost a customer.
I am going to go against the grain, and hope everyone still likes me when I am fhrough; I am 48; sometimes it seems that everyone between the ages of say 45 and 60 can look pretty much the same age.
Let's suppose I was a waitress on my feet all day working hard to make ends meet, a customer comes in and looks like she might possibly fit the senior discount catagory. Now since I myself have trouble making ends meet, perhaps this person does too and I could help her by saving her some money. So I ask if she wants the senior portion. The next thing I know I am in trouble because I insulted a person by misguessing their age by 2 years!
I may have been insulted at first, but then I hope I could have laughed it off.
I do understand your viewpoint. If I do write to Denny's (which I haven't decided yet), it won't be hostile. And I'll ask if it's their policy to ask. The more I think about this, the more I wonder how other people react. Let's take the example of a person who is, like you, 48, not a Christian, and hot-tempered. They get offended, and just might let loose.
Again, I understand what you're saying. I still don't think it's wise to ask though.
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/3/2007 5:47:38 PM
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collie1
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Yes, another person might react rather strongly to being asked that question, so a letter like you intend to write may serve as a good reminder to the waiters and waitresses not to ask that question.
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