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LindaEagle -> How do you minister to a murderer's mom & dad? (3/25/2008 2:36:14 PM)

I have been asked to minister to the family of a young man who murdered his girlfriend. I have ministered to the girl's family...his trial is coming up soon and I hope to be there during all of it. Any suggestions on this horrible situation?



MrsOliver -> RE: How do you minister to a murderer's mom & dad? (3/25/2008 2:42:54 PM)

I would say to focus on God's love. IN this situation everyone is hurting. Especially the parents. I would also focus on God's promises! IF they are not believers then you would need to address the promises of the Cross and what that means to them especially in their hour of need and for their son. We serve a healing God!!!! and a forgiving God!!!. They will probably need hope and the reassurance of God's forgiveness and Mercy!



jn1010lf -> RE: How do you minister to a murderer's mom & dad? (3/25/2008 6:22:07 PM)

Hello LindaEagle

You have a real zinger here. Surely this guy will go to prison. If so, see if you can find a ministry that is involved in this aspect of ministry. Prison Fellowship does a lot of work with prisoner's families. In the meantime, you might simply reach out to the family. Pray with them. Walk with them through all of this. God can do some miraculous things through Christian friends who are willing to carry the burdens of others.



lightshineon -> RE: How do you minister to a murderer's mom & dad? (3/25/2008 6:28:38 PM)

let them do the talking. Give them Hope that as tragic as a situation is, or how big a problem is. God is bigger than any problem, and can turn all things, for the good, But mostly listen, and love them, because love never fails.



Dakotasunbeam -> RE: How do you minister to a murderer's mom & dad? (3/25/2008 7:08:11 PM)

I agree, let them do the talking. Listen. If they are believers minister to them about God's love, forgiveness and willingness to forgive all of our sins and that their son can be forgiven. Also, let them know that God can turn all situations for Good. To Not blame God in this situation but to pray fervantly, because the Bible says the fervant and effectual prayer of a rightous man avails much. Be there for them.

If they are unbelievers tell them about the healing and reconcilliation that Christ can bring, when we come to know Him. Offer to pray for them. Listen to them. Let them know it is not God who did this. That God still loves them and their son, and is waiting to accept them with open arms if they repent and give their lives to Him. Not really much more you can do is be there, pray for them, let them know about Christ.

Hope all goes well



LindaEagle -> RE: How do you minister to a murderer's mom & dad? (3/26/2008 4:20:41 PM)

Thanks to all. I will be focusing on love and forgiveness for sure.

I can't help but wonder, what we, as ministery leaders can do to prevent the dating violence in the first place? Give me your suggestions and I'll put them together in something - maybe a class to teach or booklet or something.

I just talked with the mother of the girl a little while ago. The trial has been posponed for a little while. It is my understanding that here in Texas, this young man can face the dealth penalty if convicted unless he pleads guilty. While I can and do go into the prisons, I choose not to go into any men's unit so I will not be seeing him. But, with his mom & family, I will minister using not only love and forgivesness, but the wonderful promise of 2 Samuel 14:14.

LindaEagle



Itlyn1kc -> RE: How do you minister to a murderer's mom & dad? (3/26/2008 6:10:45 PM)

Hi Linda, i saw that you said you were here in texas...I am too. Have you heard of Don Dickerman Ministries?I don't know but maybe you might want to give them a call if the man
that murdered the girl needs ministering from a male...His ministry is awesome, he is in colleyville and he has visited a ton of prisons doing prison ministry..you can go on his website to www.dondickerman.com..He does deliverance and also ministers, his address and phone number are on the website..I tell everyone I can about his ministry because they really really helped me alot!!! I hope this helps if he needs someone to speak with, Don is the man to help him big time!!

I am praying for everyone involved in this situation..

kc



tiffanyctd -> RE: How do you minister to a murderer's mom & dad? (3/27/2008 1:35:34 PM)

You're in a tough situation. I was in a similar situation a few years ago, when a dear friend's brother was executed for murder. What those parents right now need most is unconditional love. They will likely feel very guilty, and that will be made worse by other people in the community and possibly the media. They'll probably lose a lot of support from friends and maybe even family. The best things you can do for them now is to pray for them and to physically be there for them. Run errands for them, sit with them, listen to them, and don't condemn them.

I'm not going to talk about my experiences with this anymore publicly, but if you've got any questions, you can PM me. I'm praying for you and for everyone involved.



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