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joeysei -> Betrayals Pain... (7/30/2008 10:19:39 PM)

My wife and I started out with the wrong foot first, on the other side of the cross and worldly to say the least. I was in a back-slidden condition and she never knew Him before. After some trials I remebered that I belong to Him and came back to Him with all my heart, however I loved the woman who was to be my wife, so I began to tell her and teach her about Jesus and who He is and what it meant to follow Him, after about 2 weeks she accepted Him also. From the type of lifestyle she came from we found out she had a demon that plauged her in her sleep with horrible images and things no one would want to endure. We sought the Lord and prayed and by the next day it was gone, completely. She would walk around with her bible, and go to sleep with it, just as free as the wind. Her eyes were bright and brilliant with life and she smiled all the time. I had never known her to be that way before, and I rejoiced.

How many of you know, that when the Devil has a plan for you, he don't get happy about your salvation, and as I found out later there was more than just a dream demon, that was attached to her. So with some time we got married on January 25th 2007. Her bright and brilliant eyes had dimmed somewhat and lifes requirements and desires for her had pulled back on her, her friends had let her go, and she couldn't make the adjustment that is what happens when you get saved, old things pass away, all things become new, and by the renewing of your mind is how you grow each day in your newness. The tv, telephone, etc. had begun to replace the bible she had clung so greatly too. now when I was at work, I found out the hard way some of those old interest included ex-boyfriends and guys she had recently met thru that network, she started to believe she was missing out on something, so she went off with one of these guys while I was at work.

I still didn't know, but I knew something wasn't right. She took off for a couple days and when she came back told me she was pregnant, this other guy was the dad, and I should divorce her, all while dining out. I can't begin to tell you, the feelings I was experiencing in those moments, yet the Lord was with me, my faith was (and is) still strong. So I prayed right there at the table, and told her in no uncertain terms, that there would be no divorce if she will recommit to me and the Lord, I will raise the child as my own and never mention it again. She said yes, after some thought, and we left there to look at baby stuff, (as a sign of good faith on my part).

Went through the pregnancy with her, all the stuff that goes along with that. and finally the day when our daughter is born Oct 25th. Such a moment, it was awesome. Got a new and better job, Horse Ranch Manager, including a free house, free electric, free DSL, free phone and good salary. 17 acres of the most beautiful land you can imagine, oak trees as old as America, shaded the Land scape. Everything so lush and green. So for seven months thus far, I wake up to see my beautiful baby girl smiling at me first thing everymorning as I'm off to work, seeking God everyday, my wife and baby together in church everyweek, praying as a family everynight, ...

BOOM, she leaves like a lightening strike and takes our baby with her. Says she doesn't want to be a little christian wife, that's not the life she wants. Drinking smoking again, mocking and reviling me as if I did something to her, saying there is no "us". She is not coming back, she said. Adultery already seems her new dish and she has rapped her self up with her family of origin, (Quite the secular ones), who think she is going to be just fine , she doesn't need me. Just send money for the baby and don't ask any questions...

That was two months ago, I cannot describe this, the devestation is beyond imagination, sometimes I am just frozen stiff for hours, I study and pray, and cry out to Jesus ... and I cry out to Jesus. Though I don't see Him I know He is with me, I have been completely alone as far as people are concerned, except for who I talk to at church on Sunday, as I live far from the church or anybody in a rual area. temptation to backslide again taunts me but I have refused, This is not O.K., I am not O.K. I am holding on, but betrayal's pain is overwhelming to say the least!! Pray for us please!



deermousie -> RE: Betrayals Pain... (7/30/2008 11:32:56 PM)

This is awful, Joeysei. May God get a hold of your wife, convict her of her sin of adultery and lack of love for the man she promised to love until death, and change her into the woman God wants her to be.

Lord Jesus, I lift Joeysei up to You and pray that You will do all that concerns him with his wife. Please deal with the sin, bring remorse and reconciliation, and restore this marriage in Your pattern. Please comfort Joeysei and bring peace and wisdom and help. I ask in Your name, amen.

God bless you both. I am praying.



shadowspring -> RE: Betrayals Pain... (7/30/2008 11:59:03 PM)

Father God,

I ask you to pour out your strength on this brother. Be the strength of his life and his portion today and every day. Comfort him and prepare him for battle and make him victorious- over the heartache, over the disappointment, over the betrayal, over the anger- in every way let him live as more than a conqueror through Jesus who loves him.

Father bring his baby girl back to him. Keep his love for her strong. Let him be the blessing to her life that he longs to be, that she needs him to be.

Whatever counsel, whatever action he needs to have, provide him with it Father God. Meet his need in a supernatural way that affirms your love for him.

God you are so good, and you love this brother so much. Let him feel you near even now.

In Jesus name, Amen and amen



buckifn -> RE: Betrayals Pain... (7/31/2008 11:24:09 AM)

praying for you joey. Do you have a mens group or a male friend in your church you could possibly talk with in depth about your situation?



revbob4God -> RE: Betrayals Pain... (7/31/2008 11:28:20 AM)

RE: JUST send money for the baby.
Brother, was a paternity test done? If not, then it should be.
Yes, I will pray for you and yes, we are all here for you. But,
Go to a Christian Attorney if you have to but especially if this does not reconcile, a paternity test, and soon.



joeysei -> RE: Betrayals Pain... (8/1/2008 10:48:35 PM)

I would like to thank you all, deermousie, shadowspring, buckfin, and revbob4God. For your prayers and suggestions, and yes we did get a DNA test, still waiting for the results. We talked, she has bought the devil's lie, and wants me to dance to the tune. Her Father is a morman when it is convienent. She says that the bible isn't 100% accurate, and she felt like she was living with the apostle Paul or someone like that, and she needs to find who she is in Christ. Which is all hog wash, she was saved and she knew Jesus already, but like the parable of the sower, "the seed fell on rocky ground, took root"..., but the cares of what people think, and now she has her family of origin back, and I want to have fun (SIN), and extreme vanity have taken control. She said if I'd just chill and was like we were before she would still want to hang out and even have sex with me. ...My Lord please help me. I had made her and my daughter my everything next to Jesus, I have felt so alone with there absence, for a brief span of time that day I indulged it in my mind, just to have them around. I found myself being drawn into "whatever you want just don't say it's over", which led me to feel the need to be falsely impressing and even lie to keep her in my presence for just a moment longer. And I started desperation in action. So after I left I was instantly revolted with myself and the Holy Spirit was all over me, I asked for forgiveness and repented, I am now fighting this desire to get her back at any cost. But I think the cost would be to high. Mt faith test moment... TA-DA... my wife and family or Jesus. There is no contest Jesus all the way, but this is crushing me, I can't stop weeping or wanting her to change her mind. How do I turn this off?!?!? I pray and praise the lord even in my agony, I know that is the only answer, and I need to find others who need help, to minister to them, and trust the Lord.



shadowspring -> RE: Betrayals Pain... (8/2/2008 11:02:36 AM)

Joeysie,

Stand firm in the Lord, brother. I don't know if you ever read the allegory "Pilgrim's Progress" but in that story Christian has to start his faith journey without his family because they won't come with him.

I don't know if you contribute to Voice of the Martyrs ministry, but it is not uncommon for the enemy to use those closest to us to try to get us to compromise our faith.

I hope your wife comes to her senses and God grants her repentance, according to the words the apostle Paul told Timothy. (No time to look it up right now, but it's in one of the Timothys.)

Stand firm in the Lord. The suffering you are enduring now will pass one day and you will be SO GLAD you chose Jesus over everything and everyone else.

And since your prayer is that your wife returns to Christ, remember that when that day comes she will be grateful for the stand you are taking today.

Live your life in such a way that she will be proud of you and grateful for you should she return to the Lord with her whole heart.

Though there is no way to avoid this suffering (the only way out is through it). But if you stand firm, you will receive great reward in due season, plus the comforts of the Holy Spirit in your suffering.

Stand firm.



joeysei -> RE: Betrayals Pain... (8/2/2008 2:54:35 PM)

Hey thanks shadowspring, thats just the kind of encouragement I need. I talked with her a little while ago, and after some uneasiness on her part she told me she is interested in someone else, she can't be completely committed to me, just part time. I told her no, christians don't live like that, and I'm standing with Jesus. And with a very heavy heart and much deep sorrow, I told her goodbye, for good. Depending on the DNA results, which I will hear about this wed., I don't ever want to see her again unless she is broken at the foot of the cross, if my daughter IS my daughter, I will do my best by my daughter. But the flagrant disregard for our vows, the childs need for us to be together, and the dedication we made at the alter of the church to raise her to know Jesus as a couple (Just on 4-27-08), and how this has devistated me, is beyond my understanding. But I decided I don't need to understand. Her sister is a millionaire, and in her new found reuniting with her family of origin, she is introducing my wife around to all the well-to-do men in that circle, and WHATEVER. I'm standing with Jesus, He is my riches, my first and only recourse, and my vindicator. Time is going to have to tell the rest of this story, for now I got to find a way to stop loving her like I do, forgive and let go. Please keep praying........



shadowspring -> RE: Betrayals Pain... (8/2/2008 3:47:01 PM)

quote:

I'm standing with Jesus, He is my riches, my first and only recourse, and my vindicator. Time is going to have to tell the rest of this story, for now I got to find a way to stop loving her like I do, forgive and let go.



I definitely will keep praying!

((((((more hugs)))))))



keepingfaith -> RE: Betrayals Pain... (8/5/2008 8:19:38 PM)

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Time is going to have to tell the rest of this story, for now I got to find a way to stop loving her like I do, forgive and let go. Please keep praying........


Please don't stop loving her... the Lord needs you to love her as He does- even from afar, even if she's running away. I will keep you in my prayers, God can do miracles- please don't give up. PLEASE.

Stay in the Word... you will find much comfort and HOPE.

God bless



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