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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:16:00 PM   
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My daughter mentioned something like this last week. One of her classmate always have a problem getting up early in the morning, so, his mom dumped a bucket of cold water on him. The boy just laughed at his mom and said, "ha ha, now you have to do laundry". LOL. What do you do with a kid like that?

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:18:23 PM   
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I wouldn't do the laundry. He should be doing his own laundry at that point anyway. It's only cold water so it doesn't even really need washing...just drying.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:18:33 PM   
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1) Stop doing his Laudery!

2) Make sure the next bucket was filled with chocolate syrup.




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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker

My daughter mentioned something like this last week. One of her classmate always have a problem getting up early in the morning, so, his mom dumped a bucket of cold water on him. The boy just laughed at his mom and said, "ha ha, now you have to do laundry". LOL. What do you do with a kid like that?
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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:28:08 PM   
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I have found that one of those Air Horns....works wonders!

Nothing like askign them to get up....they auto reply, "Yeah Dad."

5 min later..I walk in with the Air Horn/Scream (ROFL) and watch the ensuing Chaos...its really quite breath taking....never knew they could move that fast!!! ROFL

Now all it takes is for me to mention screaming or using the Horn and they would have made the Flash proud...<chuckle>
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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:29:40 PM   
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Hmmmm now that IS an idea!!!LOL. I like PH's idea of polka music too!!!

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:43:46 PM   
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Oh, Jeannie, what about one of the high-pitched whistles?????

You all are bad!

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:45:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker

My daughter mentioned something like this last week. One of her classmate always have a problem getting up early in the morning, so, his mom dumped a bucket of cold water on him. The boy just laughed at his mom and said, "ha ha, now you have to do laundry". LOL. What do you do with a kid like that?

Shaving his head while he oversleeps comes to mind. I bet the sound of clippers buzzing would have some effect on him...

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:46:13 PM  1 votes
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I have tried that! Didn't even phase them. Maybe it wasn't cold enough. Next time gotta use ICE.

You tried pouring a bucket of water on them and it didn't do the trick?

Whoa.


I think she probably timidly dripped water on them. You have to go for broke if they push it that far.

Somehow "timidly" and Jeannie just don't seem to go together.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:48:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CoeurdeLeon

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ORIGINAL: benelchi

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ORIGINAL: CoeurdeLeon

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I have tried that! Didn't even phase them. Maybe it wasn't cold enough. Next time gotta use ICE.

You tried pouring a bucket of water on them and it didn't do the trick?

Whoa.


I think she probably timidly dripped water on them. You have to go for broke if they push it that far.

Somehow "timidly" and Jeannie just don't seem to go together.


LOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That one deserves stars, lioness!

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:49:39 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CoeurdeLeon

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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker

My daughter mentioned something like this last week. One of her classmate always have a problem getting up early in the morning, so, his mom dumped a bucket of cold water on him. The boy just laughed at his mom and said, "ha ha, now you have to do laundry". LOL. What do you do with a kid like that?

Shaving his head while he oversleeps comes to mind. I bet the sound of clippers buzzing would have some effect on him...


I think that even I would refrain from that unless I had enjoyed tried tormenting him with all of the other methods mentioned first. By the time it got to this level, he would really deserve it!
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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:53:34 PM   
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I'd be banking on just the sound of the clippers making him think I'd do something that crazy. But, hey, hair grows back.

It's mostly a matter of making them think that, yes, you are crazy and there's no telling what you'll do next. Psychological warfare, age & treachery and all that.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:55:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mutinywxgirl

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ORIGINAL: CoeurdeLeon

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ORIGINAL: benelchi

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ORIGINAL: CoeurdeLeon

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ORIGINAL: JustJeannie

I have tried that! Didn't even phase them. Maybe it wasn't cold enough. Next time gotta use ICE.

You tried pouring a bucket of water on them and it didn't do the trick?

Whoa.


I think she probably timidly dripped water on them. You have to go for broke if they push it that far.

Somehow "timidly" and Jeannie just don't seem to go together.


LOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That one deserves stars, lioness!

HA! Thanks!

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 9:32:16 PM   
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CoeurdeLeon
I'm not freaking out. I'm not freaking out. I'm not freaking out.

You know that sounds like a line from "little Red Riding Hood"

Put with lines like "my what big teeth you have - I'm not freaking out. I'm not freaking out"

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OneOfHisJewels
I think it would be quite sweet actually.

I can see how it would go.....
"Look if can't stop the rude behavior and embarrassing me
then we are just going to go home. OK Dad?"
"Hush or there'll be baby pictures involved - the one that show the
dimples on your bottom"

For the sake of any Date - that one will stay on the creepy list.

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CoeurdeLeon
I'm all for embarrassing and otherwise bothering the kids at every opportunity. I feel it's part of my job.

I called it revenge. I told my kids that they got to pee, poop and barf
on me plus all the embarrassing thing babies and tots do, (tantrums in the store, streaking to the neighbor house, mud puddle + church clothes - before church of course) Parents, in turn, get to embarrass them as teenagers. its only fair (hehe and soooooo much fun)


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John_O
I don't see how that's creepy.

A man old enough to be her father - that's creepy.
Maybe it's me, but a large age difference is creepy.


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Geeky1
I could use some encouragement re: my relationship with my son. He is 11 and it is a major battle to get him to do anything.

Pardon us for the sport at your expense. We've been there done that more than twice. For me, years and years later its funny. Cheer up - some day you' get to giggle about it all. For now you're between screaming and pulling your hair out. Breathe, its all normal.

Question: You had mentioned a break up in another thread, was your son and he involved. ( I don't mean that in a bad way, inter act. Did your son look up to him)
Did your son's behavior start around the time of the breakup?
If so the breakup may have effected him as well.

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This morning was especially hard for me because I'm going away on a business trip for a week and this morning was the last time I will see him until I come back.

That may have been his way of saying don't go. (sorry for that guilt trip)

Spend time with him, make time each day - week just for family. (even some "mom" time for each separately)

Discipline when and where necessary. The biggest thing with any discipline is follow through Defiantly make him aware it's his behavior that needs to change.

( the old carrot and stick. Carrot for good behavior, punish for bad)


Luckily I never had to do the ice-water thing, but I did put DD's (dirty) dishes and trash in her bed once. She didn't say anything but I didn't have to pick up after her for awhile. (she was 17 at the time)


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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 9:32:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mutinywxgirl

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ORIGINAL: CoeurdeLeon

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ORIGINAL: benelchi

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ORIGINAL: CoeurdeLeon

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ORIGINAL: JustJeannie

I have tried that! Didn't even phase them. Maybe it wasn't cold enough. Next time gotta use ICE.

You tried pouring a bucket of water on them and it didn't do the trick?

Whoa.


I think she probably timidly dripped water on them. You have to go for broke if they push it that far.

Somehow "timidly" and Jeannie just don't seem to go together.


LOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That one deserves stars, lioness!


HEYYYYYYYYYYY! I resemble that remark...

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 9:34:19 PM   
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Luckily I never had to do the ice-water thing, but I did put DD's (dirty) dishes and trash in her bed once. She didn't say anything but I didn't have to pick up after her for awhile. (she was 17 at the time)


Boats




I REALLY REALLY like this idea.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 10:22:14 PM   
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I REALLY REALLY like this idea

I felt a little evil but hey, after a trillion times of telling her to pick up her mess and daddy end up doing it. I just said - sure I'll pick it up.

I read a good one in Reader's Digest years ago:
Teenage son was constantly late and missing the bus. Mom had enough.
Instead of school, she drove him to the bus and made sure he had a big hug and kiss before getting on. He wasn't late again


Told my Kids I'd take them to school wearing a clown outfit (nose, makeup, floppy shoes included) if I caught them skipping. Thank God I never had to do it... Polyester makes me itchy.


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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 10:29:33 PM   
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Giving credit where credit is due...

Any creativity I manage in child-rearing is a result of asking myself "what would Boats do in this situation?" He is the master.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 10:38:17 PM   
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I could use some encouragement re: my relationship with my son. He is 11 and it is a major battle to get him to do anything. I no longer want to have these battles but he still needs to get ready for school in the morning, get his homework done, etc. I'm at a loss.

This morning was especially hard fro me because I'm going away on a business trip for a week and this morning was the last time I will see him until I come back. I was hoping for a nice departure but we had one of the worst battles yet (his 6 year old sister didn't help). I'm trying to think of ways I can change how I handle things to help solve the problem...

Is he not getting out of bed in the morning? One semi-full bucket of very cold water would solve that in one day.
I like the way you think Lioness! A squirt gun of very cold water works too... and you can get those big ones that work from all the way across the room!!


My kids are grown, and I didn't single parent - just stopped in here to let you all know you have my highest admiration for doing this job on your own!


Actually, sometimes getting him out of bed is the easy part. I just cannot get him to stay on task and get anything done. I am constantly after him to do just about anything.
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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/14/2008 8:44:56 AM   
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My favourite form of torture is to make my boys hold hands in public. They're 12 and 8 and it's the closest thing to death for them.

I'm not above embarrassing my children in public when they get on my nerves. What's funny is my father still embarrasses me, but I can embarrass my children with glee.

So far they're both good kids. Thing 1 is VERY spoiled (no thanks to his grandparents) and Thing 2 has a dry humour to put her Lioness to shame. Unfortunately it's turned into outright lying a few times...so we're dealing with that right now.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/14/2008 8:51:20 AM   
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UGH. I hate the lies! I don't care how bad it is, tell me the truth, we'll work out the appropriate punishment later. Lying added to the mix of whatever they did wrong is just bad. They know that whatever I decide as punishment for the wrongdoing will be soooooooooo much easier to take than what happens when they lie about it too. GRRRRRR

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/14/2008 9:05:49 AM   
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My favourite form of torture is to make my boys hold hands in public. They're 12 and 8 and it's the closest thing to death for them.

I'm not above embarrassing my children in public when they get on my nerves. What's funny is my father still embarrasses me, but I can embarrass my children with glee.

So far they're both good kids. Thing 1 is VERY spoiled (no thanks to his grandparents) and Thing 2 has a dry humour to put her Lioness to shame. Unfortunately it's turned into outright lying a few times...so we're dealing with that right now.


Talking baby talk works, too! Not when they're 19, but when they're younger. I actually learned this with my cat. I couldn't get him to stop doing something, so I used reverse psychology (no, they don't teach this in school! I learneded it all on my own). When he was doing something I didn't want him to do, like plundering in the closet, I'd just put on my favorite baby voice and he'd go running. It actually worked! With my son, it was about giving him lots of kisses. Negative reinforcement at its finest.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/14/2008 9:21:57 AM   
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I'll admit, I'm a yeller. When I get mad or frustrated, I yell.

However, it was funny because the worst punishment Thing 2 had was when I spoke to him in such a low voice. He was quite shocked but I think he also understood how upset and angry I was. I could have literally strangled him and he knew it. He felt worse after that and when we were talking about it he begged me to yell at him.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/14/2008 9:26:37 AM   
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LOL. Yeah, almost as creepy as the dad of one of her friends asking me out.... THAT was creepy!!


I don't see how that's creepy. (seeing how just about the only people I meet are the Girl's friend's parents save me from a possible major social faux paus here) If he's OK why would it be creepy?


Well, for HER it would be creepy if I dated the dad of ANY of her friends, but I just meant this particular person. I am friends with his EX-wife. He KNOWS this, and he just is creepy to me in general. Does that make sense???


Ah, so it was this guy's creepiness that was the issue. So it's not automatically creepy for one of her friends' dads to ask you out.

Which is how I'd look at it. In fact the Girl would think that was great, instant sister! Alas, no eligible ladies in her her school as far as I can tell so far.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/14/2008 9:28:45 AM   
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I know for me, if my daughter ever has problem getting up, I told her I'd remove the door to her room....and play loud music...like maybe some polka or something, lol. I'm sure that would get her up.


I like this idea. I now have an accordian that I've been wanting to learn how to play. If there's anything worse for a child than polka music, it's poorly played polka music.

(My next instrument to get is a bagpipe. I've got the wind for it)

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/14/2008 9:31:23 AM   
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Since then I have seldom had a problem, and when I do a gentile reminder is all it takes.


Not to be confused with a Jewish reminder?

(Sorry, couldn't help myself)

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