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RE: happy being single - 11/4/2008 11:39:50 AM
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yours
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I'm content being single. I'm 24, still in school (last year), and I still have a lot to learn. I would like to be in a relationship, but since I don't believe in recreational dating, but courtship, that's out. I think I'm preparing myself- working out my crazy character flaws, my debt, and working on my relationship skills. All of my friends and those around me are, seriously, with someone, either married, engaged or courting. I'm the only single person in the whole bunch. That's fine though. I know that in this season, today, I'm single, so I appreciate it. It does get tough at times, trust me (lol), but I'm cool. Plus, marriage is hard! Not speaking from experience, but everyone knows the difficulty of marriage. I definitely think it's worth it, but right now, I'm not ready to deal with what comes with marriage, mainly the compromising and submission (being honest!!). Being single is teaching me to wait, it's teaching me patience. Right now I have the time to focus on ministry and serving. Once I get married, I'll have to focus on the dude with whom I'm sharing my bed, and what he wants for dinner (lol). I'm good right now. I do want to get married by 28 though.
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RE: happy being single - 11/4/2008 11:46:36 AM
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yours
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This really helped me! I used to be on the hunt for a husband! lol
Message to Single Ladies (men too!!)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o_kkYmKAEG8
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RE: happy being single - 11/4/2008 11:47:40 AM
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I'm content being single. I'm 24, still in school (last year), and I still have a lot to learn. I would like to be in a relationship, but since I don't believe in recreational dating, but courtship, that's out. I think I'm preparing myself- working out my crazy character flaws, my debt, and working on my relationship skills. All of my friends and those around me are, seriously, with someone, either married, engaged or courting. I'm the only single person in the whole bunch. That's fine though. I know that in this season, today, I'm single, so I appreciate it. It does get tough at times, trust me (lol), but I'm cool. Plus, marriage is hard! Not speaking from experience, but everyone knows the difficulty of marriage. I definitely think it's worth it, but right now, I'm not ready to deal with what comes with marriage, mainly the compromising and submission (being honest!!). Being single is teaching me to wait, it's teaching me patience. Right now I have the time to focus on ministry and serving. Once I get married, I'll have to focus on the dude with whom I'm sharing my bed, and what he wants for dinner (lol). I'm good right now. I do want to get married by 28 though.
You are really smart...I think I could learn from you girl! I'm learning patient too, it's tough sometimes though...LOL!
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RE: happy being single - 11/6/2008 12:34:16 PM
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nshira
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This is my first time posting and I am grateful for this encouraging thread.
With regards to being happy about being single, I go back and forth. Lately more back than forth. I find myself struggling lately to continue to be content being single because I have been alone for a long time. I am a 33 year old virgin and I know that this is pleasing to God. But sometimes, I feel like this makes me "special" in a little school bus way. I know that we are a peculiar people but sometimes it is hard to stand out in this way. I recently thought I found my mate, but it didn't work out and I am alone again.
Anyway, I know that God's plan for me is for good and not for evil. And like Abraham, although I am living in a foreign land, I will continue to hold on to God's promise!
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RE: happy being single - 11/6/2008 12:50:00 PM
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SamsonUSA
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ORIGINAL: nshira
This is my first time posting and I am grateful for this encouraging thread.
With regards to being happy about being single, I go back and forth. Lately more back than forth. I find myself struggling lately to continue to be content being single because I have been alone for a long time. I am a 33 year old virgin and I know that this is pleasing to God. But sometimes, I feel like this makes me "special" in a little school bus way. I know that we are a peculiar people but sometimes it is hard to stand out in this way. I recently thought I found my mate, but it didn't work out and I am alone again.
Anyway, I know that God's plan for me is for good and not for evil. And like Abraham, although I am living in a foreign land, I will continue to hold on to God's promise!
What a great first post and welcome to the CW nshira. This is very admirable in not only God's eyes but in the eyes of your future husband as well. Thanks for sharing.
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RE: happy being single - 11/6/2008 11:20:51 PM
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JoeyWest
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I am happy being single. am 36((37 in 3 weeks)), been engaged but never married. I love the fact I have to ask well Army to be able to do things. not Army and a wife. and fact I make my own to do lists. yes
seriously though, I am working, running two different programs in hospital i work at, work with the single soldiers program, taking college classes, writing music and singing in a SG group, youth minister, mentor to some teens at Church. when can i date?
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RE: happy being single - 11/7/2008 6:10:03 PM
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Godzdiva
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Anyways, I think that the best way to be content is to look at life as objectively as possible. Being in any relationship state carries many benefits and challenges.
I have heard (& learned through the experience of life) that many single people want to get married while many married people wish they were single.
The key is being content where we are. We need to give God the desires of our heart and let Him bring it ~ in His timing.
AMEN Nshira >> "Anyway, I know that God's plan for me is for good and not for evil. And like Abraham, although I am living in a foreign land, I will continue to hold on to God's promise!
~ Heaven is not here, it's There. If we were given all we wanted here, our hearts would settle for this world rather than the next. God is forever luring us up and away from this one, wooing us to Himself and His still invisible Kingdom, where we will certainly find what we so keenly long for. ~ Elisabeth Elliot
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RE: happy being single - 11/8/2008 9:04:44 PM
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The apostle Paul said that we as Christians should be content in the state we are, correct?
With that said, we as singles need to keep our eyes where we need to be--and that to the Lord, and not worrying about our cirmustances because of our "state". I am learning that lesson and that yes, I love to be married too, but in the meantime, I am letting the Lord guide my life.
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RE: happy being single - 11/9/2008 11:12:48 AM
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HoosierMusicLover
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Honestly it depends on the day. I'm very happy with who I am and my job, hobbies and interests. Most days I'm fine and enjoy the time, others I really wish I had someone to share life with. And there are those seasons when I just totally give up on any hope whatsoever. I guess it just depends what season I'm in.
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RE: happy being single - 11/9/2008 11:38:41 AM
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makarizo
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Happiness is not a choice. It's a state of mind; a by product. A by product of what? The circumstances in our lives and how we chose to see those circumstances. Happiness is a choice because we are the ones who make the choice how we will see and handle the circumstances in our lives........do we chose to take captive thoughts which lead to unhappiness and instead focus on those things which make us happy?
Happiness is a by-product of choosing to walk out Phil 4:8 in our lives........it is a choice.
Philippians 4:8 KJV
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
Feeling/emotions are a result of a thought process: I think, therefore I feel. as stated in Phil 4:8, it is called the cognitive theoryif you want to be married, that is one thing, if you think you can't be happy until you are "with someone" of course you will feel unhappy.
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