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RE: Requesting a date: Can I ask an honest question? - 10/24/2008 12:34:55 AM
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skreyola
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Again...I'm the problem child. I don't have to be attracted to a man to date him. IMO looks fade, and no one looks the same forever. I have dated (and even married) men I wasn't physically attracted to but their character and personality outshined the looks.
I'm also not about the spark. I don't see the spark until I've gotten to know someone, spent time with him...IMO that spark is merely infatuation and I don't want to base my relationship on that. I want it to be stronger.
Meh. Sparks are highly overrated. I did not feel any attraction to my husband until we were thrown together and were stuck in a vehicle for 3 hours together with nothing to do but talk. I had seen him many times and spent time together in groups, but until we were "forced" to get to know each other, there was nothing. After that we made a bonfire with our love. Who wants just sparks when you can have a fire. 
Thank you for this.
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RE: Requesting a date: Can I ask an honest question? - 10/24/2008 2:10:54 AM
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Okay, I know I'm in the minority on this one - but I think asking for a first kiss is incredibly sweet. Not from any personal experience, mind you, but I just think it would be nice. And then you don't have to wonder what he's thinking. 
Hmmmm, some food for thought Ladies.......
How about this.....The couple is so close they can hear eachothers hearts beating...their noses almost touch as they are locked eye to eye....the young man moves in slowly and just before there lips touch.....he whispers...may I?
Just a snapshot scenario...wanted to throw out there. 
Now THAT is pure romance! Absolutely beautiful. I, for one, would say yes! <swoons>
Me too! That would be so sweet and absolutely ADORABLE! Okay, okay! So, I'm a helpless romantic!
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RE: Requesting a date: Can I ask an honest question? - 10/24/2008 8:55:55 AM
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Then I would roll my eyes and turn away. If I'm already there, why ask??
What Tink said. If I didn't want to kiss, I would keep my face as far away from his as possible.
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RE: Requesting a date: Can I ask an honest question? - 10/24/2008 9:24:19 AM
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so some girls say just do it but some say asking appeals to them. to the asking ladies, what would your reaction have been if he didn't ask in that scenario as you both leaned forward ...
unless most of you say, you'd be extremely offended, it seems just kissing is the better way to go as asking will ruin the mood?
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RE: Requesting a date: Can I ask an honest question? - 10/24/2008 9:52:12 AM
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In my humble opinion I think most women would say go for it.
I think that the romantic ones would welcome permission. You know?
I'm just too logical to be romantic. *shrug*
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RE: Requesting a date: Can I ask an honest question? - 10/24/2008 10:01:55 AM
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so some girls say just do it but some say asking appeals to them. to the asking ladies, what would your reaction have been if he didn't ask in that scenario as you both leaned forward ...
unless most of you say, you'd be extremely offended, it seems just kissing is the better way to go as asking will ruin the mood?
In the situation Kellgaste described, I would not be offended if my suitor didn't ask. Let's just say he would get extra big brownie points for asking!
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RE: Requesting a date: Can I ask an honest question? - 10/24/2008 10:06:20 AM
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so some girls say just do it but some say asking appeals to them. to the asking ladies, what would your reaction have been if he didn't ask in that scenario as you both leaned forward ...
unless most of you say, you'd be extremely offended, it seems just kissing is the better way to go as asking will ruin the mood?
In the situation Kellgaste described, I would not be offended if my suitor didn't ask. Let's just say he would get extra big brownie points for asking!
But then again if the kiss was good enough would the brownie points be necessary? 
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RE: Requesting a date: Can I ask an honest question? - 10/24/2008 10:29:22 AM
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discussing a man asking permission to kiss a woman?
Ack! Can you say "way to kill a moment and cause an even more awkward one!?!?!?!"  
EXACTLY!!!! That's what we said too!!!! *giggle*
Do great minds think alike or does insanity run in packs?  Or both?
Maybe greatly insane insanely great minds think alike!
Okay, I know I'm in the minority on this one - but I think asking for a first kiss is incredibly sweet. Not from any personal experience, mind you, but I just think it would be nice. And then you don't have to wonder what he's thinking.
Hmmmm, some food for thought Ladies.......
How about this.....The couple is so close they can hear eachothers hearts beating...their noses almost touch as they are locked eye to eye....the young man moves in slowly and just before there lips touch.....he whispers...may I?
Just a snapshot scenario...wanted to throw out there.
Then I would roll my eyes and turn away. If I'm already there, why ask??
I was mearly asking a Hypothetical Question ma'am. Was curious as to the different perspectives.
<Thinks he may do his Master's thesis on this>
Should be entertaining find test subjects....I'm thinking a control group of at least 2000 ladies should provide a decent and somewhat accurate base line to draw a conclusion.......I mean Politicians have ben performing Statistical analysis like this for decades...right?
Start the test with asking before kissing them, then just kiss them......I think that would work.... 4000 kisses <chuckle> Not really seeing a downside to this.
I think this is how it's done in the movies when the director is trying to make the scene more romantic, and trying to get the audience to take a deep breath and anticipate the moment even more. In most cases, if this scene is shown, you'd hear women gasping and awwwing. In real life, um, I don't know. It depends on how the previous 3 hours went prior to the kiss, lol. If I'm attracted to the guy, he wouldn't need to ask as I definitely won't allow him within 3 feet of me if I didn't want to kiss him. So, take note, for a lot of women, if she lets you in her personal space, she's into you, and you just have to wait for the right moment (for both of you) for that kiss. Takes a lot of sensitivity.
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RE: Requesting a date: Can I ask an honest question? - 10/24/2008 10:45:15 AM
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I think this is how it's done in the movies when the director is trying to make the scene more romantic, and trying to get the audience to take a deep breath and anticipate the moment even more. In most cases, if this scene is shown, you'd hear women gasping and awwwing. In real life, um, I don't know. It depends on how the previous 3 hours went prior to the kiss, lol. If I'm attracted to the guy, he wouldn't need to ask as I definitely won't allow him within 3 feet of me if I didn't want to kiss him. So, take note, for a lot of women, if she lets you in her personal space, she's into you, and you just have to wait for the right moment (for both of you) for that kiss. Takes a lot of sensitivity.
(Note to self: If allowed to get within three feet of PH, then she probably wants to kiss me.)
(second note to self: Double check in cases of public transit or tight spots on the hiking trail. I've heard she throws a mean elbow)
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