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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 10/27/2008 12:38:06 AM
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lynnmoon
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Now that I've read the thread, I agree with some of the others. I'm more apt to compare myself in other departments.
Neat homes is like my WORST one. I don't know why I'm so blooming messy, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 10/28/2008 6:03:53 AM
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No, I don't compare myself to other women. Not usually anyway. I'm pretty content in how I look except there's a few things I'd love to get corrected with plastic surgery. Maybe one day...
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 10/28/2008 7:10:14 AM
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Normally I don't compare myself with other women as to regarding looks and things like that but every now and then, when you are surrounded by a group of strangers then I do it automatically.
But, and I think this is the important part, I don't stress out about it. Even if I personally don't view myself as being as pretty as the other women then there must be Someone who does because He loves me unconditionally....
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/1/2008 7:04:51 PM
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yes I do.
That's all I am going to say!
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/2/2008 5:01:38 PM
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I think I do in the sense that I get fashion and hair ideas from other women, and make up ideas. I like to stay as young looking as possible and I see what younger women are wearing.
I also do it in the sense that I do look at myself and them and see what I could be doing better. Or, "wow, she is gorgeous, I want to look like that" type of thing. Right wrong or indifferent, I do it. I feel most comfortable and confident in a group of women where I feel I am the most attractive. In a group of very attractive put together women, I feel self conscious and less confident.
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/2/2008 5:53:23 PM
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I think I do and feel that way to some extent... but for me, it's more a comparison of what I call "worldly femininity" than looks alone. I grew up with a tomboy mom and many tomboy friends, though I wouldn't call myself one. I've always struggled with trying to appear "feminine", i.e. makeup, perfume, fashion, accessories, making hair look nice, attracting people (not just men), being good with children, cooking, cleaning, etc. If I'm in a group of these kind of women, I almost immediately feel like a stranger, as if I don't belong, whereas if I'm with a group of tomboy women, I feel more like a "feminine" woman, and therefore feel a little more confident, perhaps even bordering on proud. The same goes for women who appear more/less "godly" than me, usually more because I am by no means the kind of Christian I would like to be! 
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/2/2008 8:21:44 PM
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Memaw.
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I'm going to be real open here about myself.
Yes, I do.
I compare myself to other women everywhere I go, in every area.
Do they look younger than me?
Better put together?
Better figure?
Better makeup?
And on and on and on. 
I have always struggled with low self esteem.
I know I am not gag ugly, but as I age I see more wrinkles, gray hair and saggy areas that I know are noticeable to everyone else as well.
Rick is a very loving husband, and compliments me all the time, but how do you stop the recording in your head that tells you how ugly, how fat, or how worthless you are?
I know God doesn't see me like that, but I do.
And a PS to Harvie.
I have seen your pic and you are a beautiful woman!
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/10/2008 11:46:04 PM
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I compare myself constantly. My mom constantly compared me to other girls and I came up short. I wasn't a girly-girl and that's what she wanted. I was fat to her even when I wasn't fat; I was just bigger than she was by the time I was 9. My grandmother (not her mom) was also a champion at comparing and she always measured herself as being inadequate so I learned that too. This is my toughest battle, to see myself as God sees me and not how my mom saw (still sees) me.
I'm not ugly but I really don't see myself as cute either ... I'm too big to be considered cute. Yes, I have some serious body issues!
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/13/2008 3:21:52 PM
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When you are in a group of women, do you look to see who is prettier than your or not as pretty as you?
I definitely look around and notice everyone in a group. I take in details. I don't usually use what I see in others as a measuring stick for my appearance, but it happens occasionally. Usually when I am already not feeling strong and confident to begin with.
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If you feel someone is prettier than you, do you feel uncomfortable? If you feel prettier than someone else, does it make you feel confident?
Discuss! 
Not if its physical attributes that I can't do anything about...but if I know I going to be with so&so and she always looks so put together, I might take a little more time myself that day. I don't like to feel like a frump when I didn't have to be one and noone else is sporting that look that day. 
I sure hope I don't feel more confident simply because I think I'm prettier than someone else. That seems so shallow...but as I was typing my answer I got this little twinge, like, "really? are you SURE about that?" Ug, I think I'm shallow.
I have a very dear friend who is way into looks. She loves hair, makeup, clothes, all of it! She is extremely good natured and just loves all things pretty. She is famous for slowly bringing along any diamond in the rough that she comes across. She loves to turn a goose into a swan. I have been one of her projects for years! When she came to see my new born son, she gave me a big hug and whispered, "I love you, you need mascara."
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/14/2008 12:30:32 PM
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Just saw this and thought I'd comment. I struggled with this awhile ago with the woman at a church we were members of for 8 years. For some reason I always thought that I wasn't "christian" enough for these woman. "Christian" bak then, to me, meant being the perfect "Suzie Homemaker" because most of these woman were very crafty and so organized. I was a mess compared to them and I think it kept me from getting to know them better. I don't know why I felt like this, but I did. I do think Satan accuses us of things that just aren't true and we start believeing them. That statrts the ball rolling and keeps us from getting to knwo some really great people. I also think that some put on facades at church and never pull of the mask to reveal their true selves. It's a shame. I'm rambling now .... .
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/15/2008 3:24:26 PM
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To be honest my mother compares me to other girls my age. Usually the daughters of people she knows. There is one particular girl who my mom is always saying "you see she's only 22 and is getting her doctorate's and she's a model and she's a size 2 and she's got a small nose and you aren't like that at all! why can't you be like that?"
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/17/2008 1:02:14 PM
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Yes, I have been guilty of comparing myself to other women.
My friend CR the other day though said something that kind of put it all in perspective for me...he goes-"How can you compare yourself to someone you will never be anything like? She is a snot, you are genuinely friendly. She has blue eyes, you have green. She thinks she has it all together, you admit that you are a scatter brain and don't mind it. Why would you want there to be two of her in the world, when you are an absolutely perfect you? God obviously liked the way He made you, or He would have not made you like that."
Ever since that, I am learning to stop myself from comparing myself to someone who I think is prettier, smarter, more talented, or has a boyfriend. I am who I am for a reason and that reason is...God made me this way!
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/18/2008 12:57:00 PM
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Yes I USED to compare myself to woman. I used to compare myself with woman in their early twenties since I am in my late twenties. God really had to deal with me on the issue. I have been doing a lot better though. Instead of wasting time on comparing my self to woman what I did was change what I could about myself. For example I joined the gym and started eating better so that I would lose weight. I also got new clothes, so I felt better about myself. I did my hair differently, colored it and cut it. I started wearing heels more often and got cute accesories like cute purses and matching jelwry. So basically I worked on myself and I becaming the person I wanted to be instead of wanting to be someone else. Does that make sense? Now I feel better about myself because I was not taking good care of myself before. Now I do myself up each day even if I am not going anywhere and I feel good about it. God really helped because He helped me get it together. But more importantly He helped me on the inside too. It wasnt just strictly physical appearance.
What I am struggling with right now is comparing myself to other Christian woman. If she has a closer walk with the Lord, if she is more wholesome than me. I need to work on this one too. I am learning to accept myself the way I am and believing God will change me in time to be what He wants me to be.
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/18/2008 3:45:38 PM
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I just don't feel like an adult sometimes.
I am 46 and still feel that way at times.
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