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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/18/2008 3:55:27 PM
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jesuschick247
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I just don't feel like an adult sometimes.
I am 46 and still feel that way at times.
I feel like I'm not sure how being an adult should feel...
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/20/2008 9:02:36 PM
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Roberta_
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Do I compare myself to other women?
all.the.time!
I mainly do it when they are more mature in the Lord, successful, skinnier or prettier. As long as they are doing better than I am in one of those areas, I compare myself to them.
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/22/2008 12:25:31 AM
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sunshine4God
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I mainly do it when they are more mature in the Lord, successful, skinnier or prettier. As long as they are doing better than I am in one of those areas, I compare myself to them.
Me too for all the same reasons.
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/25/2008 6:06:30 PM
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frazzledmom
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More often than is probably good for emotional well-being. Usually I feel inadequate, but sometimes I feel smug or justified. I can't believe this part of junior high school mentality still haunts me.
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/26/2008 10:25:30 PM
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heavencomedown
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sometimes i do but it is because they are older and more spiritually knowledgeable than i am and i wish to be.. but for looks.. sometimes for younger women, but then I ask gGd to remind me that our bodies change with children and are different in a physical way. I think Im more atractive now than i was b4 kids, then at times i dont think that,, I dunno... I really jave nothing to complain about, Ive always been smallish, I just think its a vanity issue, could be the styles that my curves dont fit anymore... cant do the Jr's dept cos the clothes are cut differnt, but the clothes are cuter... yeah I think thats it. i wish the clothes were more stylish on a budget i could afford.
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/27/2008 2:38:19 AM
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cheeky_monkey
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Sometimes I compare my nonflat stomach to another woman's flat stomach. I'm a thin 120 pounds and in good shape, but after six kids I'll never have a flat stomach without plastic surgery. Sometimes it's hard not to compare because it's something I physically cannot achieve on my own, but at the same time sometimes I have an easy time "forgetting" about it because there's nothing I can do about it anyway. I guess it just depends on my mood that day.
I don't compare my face, clothes, or makeup too much, I don't think, although I probably compare my hair sometimes. It's very straight and difficult to style, which is something I wish I could change.
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 11/28/2008 5:03:36 PM
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Consecrated2God
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I'm a thin 120 pounds and in good shape, but after six kids I'll never have a flat stomach without plastic surgery.
I could have written that exact sentence!
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 12/19/2008 3:13:58 PM
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sowaseed
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Yes I do but only when my husband is around me and I can't tell you how much it makes me go insane. I have low self esteem and it really makes me mad at myself because I just can't get past it and be satisfied. I feel like I am a terrible Christian for being so self-centered on how I look compared to other women when it concerns my husband.
I am 49 and I have people tell me that I look like I am in my thirties. (In my eyes, I don't see this) My children tell me that their friends tell them that I am pretty, but I still don't believe it but it SHOULDN'T MATTER.
My husband is a "girl watcher" and if there is a "looker" anywhere around us he doesn't glance, he stares and watches. I feel like I have to compete against these women and there is no way I can do that. He has gotten better in being more considerate when I am with him but he still continues to do it. We have been married 3 years and he is 56. It is hard for a man that has been like that to change his ways and I believe it is such a habit that he doesn't even realize that he is doing it sometimes.
It is a long story why I am insecure so I am not going to go into that and I pray about this all of the time because it seems I just can't make this miserable feeling go away. I am doing this to myself. It isn't fair to the pretty women either. God made them that way and he made me the way that I am and we are to all love one another. I have probably missed out on a lot of friendships because of this issue and that saddens me.
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RE: Do you compare yourself to other women? - 12/20/2008 11:33:24 PM
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Or thinking someone else has their lives all together...the friend with the spotless house and impeccable decorating taste (I have neither of those). 
This is what i do. I compare myself with others on both sides. I want there hair or there body or be as pretty as they are, but when it comes to a certain couple I'm always uncomfortable around them when going to there house. Its one of mine and my husband's friends and they always have a spotless house, not to mention its huge and beautiful. I always compare my house and wish i had the things they do and then i think to myself how lucky i am. I guess the one things that bothers me is that my house is always a wreck and i wonder when do her kids ever play? Because her house is never messed up! Ever! I don't know
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