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ORIGINAL: pstrdebi

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ORIGINAL: phosadaud

Ah. Here I thought when folks were responding to my posts and asking questions, it meant they wanted to discuss it. Little did I know that meant they actually wanted me to shut up. And when I didn't get that oh-so-obvious hint, folks figured rather than just say something, they would post the oh-so-loving rolling eye smace and make me wonder even more what was going on.

Got it.

Unsubscribing.

Kristen...
Read 1 Corinthians 9:20-22
Paul was to others what he needed to be in order to win them. If there is someone in church who absolutely abhors greeting time... should we continue to get in their face every week being bouncy and obnoxious? Or should we become, like Paul, adaptable to them in order that they are wooed by our gentleness?

Just some food for thought.


(edited because I apparently had trouble spelling last night)

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ORIGINAL: stellaluna

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ORIGINAL: pstrdebi

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ORIGINAL: phosadaud

Ah. Here I thought when folks were responding to my posts and asking questions, it meant they wanted to discuss it. Little did I know that meant they actually wanted me to shut up. And when I didn't get that oh-so-obvious hint, folks figured rather than just say something, they would post the oh-so-loving rolling eye smace and make me wonder even more what was going on.

Got it.

Unsubscribing.

Kristen...
Read 1 Corinthians 9:20-22
Paul was to others what he needed to be in order to win them. If there is someone in church who absolutely abhors greeting time... should we continue to get in their face every week being bouncy and obnoxious? Or should we become, like Paul, adaptable to them in order that they are wooed by our gentleness?

Just some food for thought.


(edited because I apparently had trouble spelling last night)

Surely you aren't suggesting that one person should have so much pull in a church that the greeting time should be done away with? I have social anxiety and I really do dread greeting time--whether it's generic or the pastor wants something specific said--but I don't expect people to cater to me. What if I didn't like the song played during communion? Should I be able to complain and have communion taken silently? What if I don't like taking an offering during service? etc. And when it comes to greetings, should the pastor single people out and say, "Don't greet this person because it makes them uncomfortable?"

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ORIGINAL: momma_bee

You don't know if I'm sitting by myself because I want a large personal space or I don't feel welcome. You should welcome me and invite me to sit with you, but if I decline, asking again and again may be an indication of something else going on.

Does perfume bother me? Maybe I think I smell funny. I personally do have space issues and cannot bear to feel trapped so I don't even like sitting in the middle of a pew/row. Maybe you are that guy from work who gives me the CREEPS and I don't want to admit that...

You can let people be individuals without changing the way you worship. If I don't like a particular song - I might not sing it, I will never PICK if asked to pick one, I may even suggest an alternative if you ask me to do it as a solo but YOU can sing it til your hearts content.

I cannot change your mind, but I can expect you to respect mine.

And ICK to being put into a situation that causes me to feel like you don't.

I keep thinking about being a kid and told to 'pass the peace' and then hearing people complain about the chatting when you were supposed to say 'peace be with you'. (no, we weren't Catholic / Lutheran)