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No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? meh? - 11/4/2008 10:12:32 AM
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Elena1030
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Are you in a dry spell? Looking around for interesting singles to meet and spotting no one?
Not crushing on anyone... and getting used to this healthy reality?
Me? I'm crushless. No prospects for crushes or dating or anything (right now)... And kinda OK with that. Which is a little weird for me. But I think I'll adjust! =)
I'd like to meet an amazing guy, but not just for the sake of having a dinner companion, ya know? Anyway... I'm not exactly freaking out about having no prospects (currently), but I am slightly bummed about it.
I am sooooo glad that I don't have any crushes/obsessions. Wow! The freedom!!!!! No inner craziness... (unless it's my own weirdness! heh, heh!!).
Are you experiencing some emotional/mental space you haven't had for a while? Would you like to share about it? (Go into as few or as many details as you wish, of course.)
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/4/2008 11:35:38 AM
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John_O
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Same as you. No prospects, not even anyone who looks like they might be a prospect. At this point I'd be happy to ask someone out and get soundly rejected as it would show that at least there was someone worth asking out around (That is, someone who fit my list close enough to explore)
I am not happy with it. I'm a far better husband than I am a single.
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/4/2008 11:38:28 AM
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Geeky1
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Seems lately my thing is that I will meet a guy, talk to him a few times and think that maybe I would like get to know him better, but then I see him with another woman (and it always seems to be a blonde Barbie type- at least in appearance). It's kinda put me in a funk, since I am not blonde and in no way resemble Barbie- I figure I'll just have to learn to be OK with being alone.
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/4/2008 11:44:31 AM
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Same as you. No prospects, not even anyone who looks like they might be a prospect. At this point I'd be happy to ask someone out and get soundly rejected as it would show that at least there was someone worth asking out around (That is, someone who fit my list close enough to explore)
I am not happy with it. I'm a far better husband than I am a single.
LOL! The inevitable list...mine grows all the time! Hey, better to know what you want now than to realize it later is what I say. I'm okay with being single now, but one day, Singing Boy is going to realize that we were meant to be more than friends, I hope anyways...LOL!
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/4/2008 12:04:44 PM
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Seems lately my thing is that I will meet a guy, talk to him a few times and think that maybe I would like get to know him better, but then I see him with another woman (and it always seems to be a blonde Barbie type- at least in appearance). It's kinda put me in a funk, since I am not blonde and in no way resemble Barbie- I figure I'll just have to learn to be OK with being alone.
Yup. That's me. Somedays that's easy and even joyful. Somedays (the last few days have been these kind) it positively sucks.
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/4/2008 1:35:58 PM
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That’s my life right now. I’m mildly crushing on the guy at the gym, but it’s not a real crush, you know what I mean. It’s just a nice feeling to walk in there and see someone I find attractive and I somehow admire him for the little bits of information that he’s divulged to me. He’s a volunteer coach in little kids hockey league, and I like that. He’s so down to earth as well. He doesn’t even know how attractive he is (or at least, he pretends not to know) and he doesn’t try to appear to be all that perfect. He’s shy and when we meet at the gym, he’s got this shy smile that makes me melt inside, lol. So, I’m crusing on his personality and his looks, but it’s not a major crush that I would pursue. I thought I would, but after thinking about things, I’m pretty sure I won’t pursue anything for quite sometime.
And I kinda like it that I”m not interested on anyone right now. It gives me time to really ponder my relating pattern. I think my emotions are stuck somehow. I’m still wishing, waiting, hoping for a second (or is that the 15th) chance with a certain individual whom I consider to be a perfect match for me. I’ve been praying about it lately and I know in God’s timing, He’ll give me (and hopefully him) the clarity of what that relationship was really about. Right now, when I look back, I think he’s the masculine version of me; I'm his yin for his yang. Whenever I was with him, time stood still and I lived in the moment. That was pretty cool. He cured my ADD, lol. So, I’m not allowing myself to crush on anyone until I am completely at peace about this one. I have all the time in the world to wait for God to answer or for Him to hit me in the head and tell me to “move on” already, lol.
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/4/2008 4:44:22 PM
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JoeyWest
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well dont have a crush well Shania Twain is single again so will claim her. lol
actually, I have friends and at moment, with all i have on my plate, thats all i want to have.
friends are good and fun, when disagree i dont have a pan thrown at me. well unless am at her place lol
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/4/2008 6:57:06 PM
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HoosierMusicLover
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I'm loving all these replies. I'm pretty much single, crush-free, and haven't dated in years now. (Been almost 3 1/2 years at this point) Yet for some reason I'm not really that worried about it. I have been lonely but recently that has been for more good quality friends than for that special lady. I've actually had a good year in not stressing for a date or special other, even travelling out west to see a great friend and give myself an awesome vacation in the process. Although lately I've had a much deeper yearning for something more with someone, a degree of that feeling I haven't had in a very long time. I'm praying to see if it's just a 'feeling', which comes and goes like the wind, or if it's a deep desire placed by God to wake me up to something!
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/5/2008 1:09:08 AM
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OneJohn410
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Seems lately my thing is that I will meet a guy, talk to him a few times and think that maybe I would like get to know him better, but then I see him with another woman (and it always seems to be a blonde Barbie type- at least in appearance). It's kinda put me in a funk, since I am not blonde and in no way resemble Barbie- I figure I'll just have to learn to be OK with being alone.
Yes, but let's not forget those amazing humans bored with the everyday and with curious minds to boot. Some of these wonderful people took the Barbie doll, got her dimensions, projected who she'd be as a real-life full-size person, and found she'd be unable to walk! I don't remember the exact details, but unless Barbie has since gone through some physical changes of her plastic self, then she is still portrayed as an impossible 'person' in which a young girl can one day become- or want to, if you like walking.  Just thought that would pertain to things a little. I don't know how... but something to think about.
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/5/2008 12:12:56 PM
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Geeky1
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Seems lately my thing is that I will meet a guy, talk to him a few times and think that maybe I would like get to know him better, but then I see him with another woman (and it always seems to be a blonde Barbie type- at least in appearance). It's kinda put me in a funk, since I am not blonde and in no way resemble Barbie- I figure I'll just have to learn to be OK with being alone.
Yes, but let's not forget those amazing humans bored with the everyday and with curious minds to boot. Some of these wonderful people took the Barbie doll, got her dimensions, projected who she'd be as a real-life full-size person, and found she'd be unable to walk! I don't remember the exact details, but unless Barbie has since gone through some physical changes of her plastic self, then she is still portrayed as an impossible 'person' in which a young girl can one day become- or want to, if you like walking. Just thought that would pertain to things a little. I don't know how... but something to think about.
True... but sometimes it seems like guys want a girl who is as close as possible, at least by my observations. I know there are those out there who are not like that, but apparently I have yet to meet any of them.
I guess this is part of my struggle, to not get caught up in that mindset. It just seems like all the men I've come across prefer Ferraris and I'm more of a military grade Hummer...
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/5/2008 12:17:22 PM
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broyce1981
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Just remember that not all guys are looking for the same thing. Everybody is attractive to somebody and it's a good thing that's true because otherwise there'd be a lot more lonely people.
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/5/2008 2:19:00 PM
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JoeyWest
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or lots more fights over same girl.
same goes on guys side. not ever girl wants same kinda guy. just seems that way
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If today was your last day
and tomorrow was too late
Could you say goodbye to yesterday?
Would you live each moment like your last? "Nickelback"
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/6/2008 10:55:00 AM
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ORIGINAL: Elena1030
Are you in a dry spell? Looking around for interesting singles to meet and spotting no one?
Not crushing on anyone... and getting used to this healthy reality?
Me? I'm crushless. No prospects for crushes or dating or anything (right now)... And kinda OK with that. Which is a little weird for me. But I think I'll adjust! =)
I'd like to meet an amazing guy, but not just for the sake of having a dinner companion, ya know? Anyway... I'm not exactly freaking out about having no prospects (currently), but I am slightly bummed about it.
I am sooooo glad that I don't have any crushes/obsessions. Wow! The freedom!!!!! No inner craziness... (unless it's my own weirdness! heh, heh!!).
Are you experiencing some emotional/mental space you haven't had for a while? Would you like to share about it? (Go into as few or as many details as you wish, of course.)
dry spell -To go for a long period of time without something
Have I had one of .......wait what's this
drought - Most destructive of all natural disasters, it is generally defined as an extended period (season, year, several seasons or years) in which available water(men) is insufficient for humans (women)
No now this is what my life is like right now! And yup your post pretty much sums it up. Right now I'm pretty much ok with it busy thinking about other things I wan't to accomplish before I die besides being someones wife. Plus rejoicing in all the things I dont have to deal with that comes with relationships. Once in a while it gets tough usually when I meet someone and obtain an interest in them but that too passes.
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/6/2008 11:02:04 AM
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Katie-Scarlet
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I'd be happy to ask someone out and get soundly rejected as it would show that at least there was someone worth asking out around (That is, someone who fit my list close enough to explore)
LOL Never a truer statement has been said!
I'm 41 and the pool of available men in an age bracket I would go for, that I would consider and that are christian is more like the size of my sink now. The small bathroom sink!
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/6/2008 11:56:10 AM
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Kellgaste
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ORIGINAL: OneJohn410
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ORIGINAL: Geeky1
Seems lately my thing is that I will meet a guy, talk to him a few times and think that maybe I would like get to know him better, but then I see him with another woman (and it always seems to be a blonde Barbie type- at least in appearance). It's kinda put me in a funk, since I am not blonde and in no way resemble Barbie- I figure I'll just have to learn to be OK with being alone.
Yes, but let's not forget those amazing humans bored with the everyday and with curious minds to boot. Some of these wonderful people took the Barbie doll, got her dimensions, projected who she'd be as a real-life full-size person, and found she'd be unable to walk! I don't remember the exact details, but unless Barbie has since gone through some physical changes of her plastic self, then she is still portrayed as an impossible 'person' in which a young girl can one day become- or want to, if you like walking. Just thought that would pertain to things a little. I don't know how... but something to think about.
True... but sometimes it seems like guys want a girl who is as close as possible, at least by my observations. I know there are those out there who are not like that, but apparently I have yet to meet any of them.
I guess this is part of my struggle, to not get caught up in that mindset. It just seems like all the men I've come across prefer Ferraris and I'm more of a military grade Hummer...
Now THAT is HOT!!!!!!! Mil Grade Hummer! Woo Hoo!!!! Nice Curves, Well balances, Armor Plating, Great fuel economy, not high maintenance, Flexible in different types of Terrain, Flawless suspension system, can take a corner rated at 25mph at 70 without skipping a beat! Custom paint job, Blends in well with surrounding area.......
Better stop, I could go on and on and on.
Ferraris: HIGH Maintenance, trouble magnet, low profile so has higher level of accident prone, can't take a hit without appearing flawed, no rugged option, only geared to pristine roads.......
Think I'll stop there, you get the Idea <warm smile>.
Point: Mil Grade Hummer = WAY Better, IMHO!
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