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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/6/2008 1:48:02 PM
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skreyola
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No crushes, no prospects here in Northwest Florida.
I'd say it's bad.
I'm not desperate; I'm living my life, trying to serve God as well as I can, trying to get out among people on a regular basis, building my own business... but I am not happy as a single. I feel a deep, strong desire to spend my life with someone. Being unencumbered is overrated. I want someone to share my joys and sorrows, to care when I come home or if I come home at all. Family is nice, but a man needs to have a family of his own.
I'm not desperate, and I'm not depressed; I'm a generally happy person, but I'm not happy about being single.
I guess maybe I could give an LDR another chance, though I've never had success with them in the past...
And by the way, I'd be very hesitant to date someone who looked like Barbie(tm) or even similar. She'd have to show me she's a real woman with a brain and is truly interested in me as a person before I'd date a woman who looked like that; and I haven't met a lot of people who'd take that kind of time. And most women don't pursue, so I'd probably never date a woman like that, because I don't chase them.
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/6/2008 9:26:40 PM
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No crushes, no prospects here in Northwest Florida.
I'd say it's bad.
I'm not desperate; I'm living my life, trying to serve God as well as I can, trying to get out among people on a regular basis, building my own business... but I am not happy as a single. I feel a deep, strong desire to spend my life with someone. Being unencumbered is overrated. I want someone to share my joys and sorrows, to care when I come home or if I come home at all. Family is nice, but a man needs to have a family of his own.
I'm not desperate, and I'm not depressed; I'm a generally happy person, but I'm not happy about being single.
I guess maybe I could give an LDR another chance, though I've never had success with them in the past...
And by the way, I'd be very hesitant to date someone who looked like Barbie(tm) or even similar. She'd have to show me she's a real woman with a brain and is truly interested in me as a person before I'd date a woman who looked like that; and I haven't met a lot of people who'd take that kind of time. And most women don't pursue, so I'd probably never date a woman like that, because I don't chase them.
(((((Skrey)))))) Thank you for sharing that. I pray that you find the woman of your dreams very soon.
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/7/2008 11:11:37 AM
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Seems lately my thing is that I will meet a guy, talk to him a few times and think that maybe I would like get to know him better, but then I see him with another woman (and it always seems to be a blonde Barbie type- at least in appearance). It's kinda put me in a funk, since I am not blonde and in no way resemble Barbie- I figure I'll just have to learn to be OK with being alone.
Yes, but let's not forget those amazing humans bored with the everyday and with curious minds to boot. Some of these wonderful people took the Barbie doll, got her dimensions, projected who she'd be as a real-life full-size person, and found she'd be unable to walk! I don't remember the exact details, but unless Barbie has since gone through some physical changes of her plastic self, then she is still portrayed as an impossible 'person' in which a young girl can one day become- or want to, if you like walking.  Just thought that would pertain to things a little. I don't know how... but something to think about.
True... but sometimes it seems like guys want a girl who is as close as possible, at least by my observations. I know there are those out there who are not like that, but apparently I have yet to meet any of them.
I guess this is part of my struggle, to not get caught up in that mindset. It just seems like all the men I've come across prefer Ferraris and I'm more of a military grade Hummer...
Hmmm... I think only a military man can get near a military-grade hummer. Something to do with the armament on it.
Backing up a step... I believe there's something to be said for the woman who is not 'as close as possible'- I'm meaning right there with me, with keen interest in the complete me at the start of a relationship. She's got her space, and I've got mine, and then there's that common ground. I know... it's a big stretch from the visual first impression. Yet if that's all his apparent focus- and best guess most guys wouldn't mind dropping 10-15 lbs themselves and wish they had one of those total gyms- then so what? He may be looking for Ms. World the rest of his life and never stop to appreciate life. You've got the priorities set up right, sister, just keep thinking, well, there's another one I don't have to wonder myself about.
All the physical this world focuses on, and hey! All the amazing people can't stay together. That's what gets me... maybe there's no way it's as perfect as 'normals' can think, after all.
Not one of my better posts, but chin up and keeping ya in prayer on this. Gas prices are back down, and there's folks that like the big transports on the roads... maybe the mil-specs can go away and you just be a happy civilian-type hummer, hummin' for Jesus?
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/7/2008 11:25:38 AM
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Wow whats this world coming to? OneJohn410 AKA " late night John " posting in the AM?
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/7/2008 7:49:10 PM
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Are you in a dry spell? Looking around for interesting singles to meet and spotting no one?
Not crushing on anyone... and getting used to this healthy reality?
Me? I'm crushless. No prospects for crushes or dating or anything (right now)... And kinda OK with that. Which is a little weird for me. But I think I'll adjust! =)
I'd like to meet an amazing guy, but not just for the sake of having a dinner companion, ya know? Anyway... I'm not exactly freaking out about having no prospects (currently), but I am slightly bummed about it.
I am sooooo glad that I don't have any crushes/obsessions. Wow! The freedom!!!!! No inner craziness... (unless it's my own weirdness! heh, heh!!).
Are you experiencing some emotional/mental space you haven't had for a while? Would you like to share about it? (Go into as few or as many details as you wish, of course.)
I think you about summed up my thoughts here! I have no crushes now, no prospects and while I would love to be blessed by meeting my husband today I'm OK with where I'm at. I have things I need to accomplish, so that's what I'm focusing on. I know the Lord will bless me when and/or if He chooses by placing someone special in my path. Then it's up to me!
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/9/2008 9:54:58 AM
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Hmmm... I think only a military man can get near a military-grade hummer. Something to do with the armament on it.
Backing up a step... I believe there's something to be said for the woman who is not 'as close as possible'- I'm meaning right there with me, with keen interest in the complete me at the start of a relationship. She's got her space, and I've got mine, and then there's that common ground. I know... it's a big stretch from the visual first impression. Yet if that's all his apparent focus- and best guess most guys wouldn't mind dropping 10-15 lbs themselves and wish they had one of those total gyms- then so what? He may be looking for Ms. World the rest of his life and never stop to appreciate life. You've got the priorities set up right, sister, just keep thinking, well, there's another one I don't have to wonder myself about.
All the physical this world focuses on, and hey! All the amazing people can't stay together. That's what gets me... maybe there's no way it's as perfect as 'normals' can think, after all.
Not one of my better posts, but chin up and keeping ya in prayer on this. Gas prices are back down, and there's folks that like the big transports on the roads... maybe the mil-specs can go away and you just be a happy civilian-type hummer, hummin' for Jesus?
OK, maybe not a mil-grade Hummer. Maybe something more like this:
http://www.4x4review.com/Portals/1/article-images/feature/2008Sema/SEMA08-Opener.JPG
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/12/2008 10:25:43 AM
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Well, there was a woman I had a crush on, and I'm fairly sure she had a crush on me, but then she moved out of town, and that was over a year ago. Before that....nothing for years. Since then....nothing. I'm always amazed when I hear people talk about "going as long as 6 months" without a date. Sheesh! Where does that leave me?
Do any of you feel like you might have "opportunities", but you always are detoured away from them? Giving a couple personal examples: there is a young woman who attends the church across the street from my church. She usually walks to her church, and I usually walk to mine. I've seen her on many occasions, but unfortunately I can never "time" things so that we cross the same path at the same time. Then there are Sundays where I don't see her at all, or I have to go somewhere else, and I miss her entirely. Not saying things would happen if we DID cross paths, but I find it frustrating.
Also volunteered at a local community center -- another young woman there -- don't know if she's in a relationship, but I do know she's not married. One time I wanted to start a conversation with her-- got pulled aside by another volunteer there who proceeded to talk my ear off for the next half-hour. By then, I had to leave to take care of other business. *sigh* A lot of times you're just never in the right place at the right time 
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/13/2008 5:04:45 AM
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A dry spell? Can 10 years be considered a spell? More of a dry life, dry existence...
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/14/2008 2:54:25 PM
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skreyola
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I would have to say I've had a dry life. I've had crushes and best friends that were guys, but never a boyfriend. That hasn't necessarily been a bad thing however. No broken heart or extra baggage to carry around from a bad relationship  . I think what I long for the most is good friends (girls or guys) to hang out with. I just recently moved to the keys and the pickings of young singles is pretty slim, especially people who have the same priorities or work schedule. I'm trying to be patient and wait for God's timing on bringing someone special into my life but it is DEFINITELY not easy! My parents have been praying for my future husband since I was born and I'm trying to become the type of wife he would want. There doesn't have to be a wealth of opportunities, just that one person God has for you!
I hear you there.
Welcome to the forum!
I'm in Northwest Florida, and the number of choices here appears very small, too. It's worse when you know there are people around but don't know where to run into them.
May you find the friends you desire and the husband God has for you very soon.
[Edited to fix bad word choice]
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/14/2008 4:42:24 PM
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I would have to say I've had a dry life. I've had crushes and best friends that were guys, but never a boyfriend. That hasn't necessarily been a bad thing however. No broken heart or extra baggage to carry around from a bad relationship . I think what I long for the most is good friends (girls or guys) to hang out with. I just recently moved to the keys and the pickings of young singles is pretty slim, especially people who have the same priorities or work schedule. I'm trying to be patient and wait for God's timing on bringing someone special into my life but it is DEFINITELY not easy! My parents have been praying for my future husband since I was born and I'm trying to become the type of wife he would want. There doesn't have to be a wealth of opportunities, just that one person God has for you!
I hear you there.
Welcome to the forum!
I'm in Northwest Florida, and the pickings appear slim here, too. It's worse when you know there are people around but don't know where to run into them.
May you find the friends you desire and the husband God has for you very soon.
Slim pickins!?!?!?!?!??!?  
What I mean is there aren't very many eligible women. The people in our little group are the only ones I know of personally, around here.
I know there have to be more, but finding them is difficult. 
Of course, our little group is filled with pretty cool people. We just don't appear to be made for each other... though I suppose I could be wrong. Am I?
[Edited after understanding the unintended meaning]
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/14/2008 11:20:06 PM
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skreyola
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Slim pickins!?!?!?!?!??!?
What I mean is there aren't very many eligible women. The people in our little group are the only ones I know of personally, around here.
I know there have to be more, but finding them is difficult.
Of course, our little group is filled with pretty cool people. We just don't appear to be made for each other... though I suppose I could be wrong. Am I?
[Edited after understanding the unintended meaning]
(Good save. I think she just might have bought it! )
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/15/2008 1:38:54 AM
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ORIGINAL: Elena1030
Are you in a dry spell? Looking around for interesting singles to meet and spotting no one?
Not crushing on anyone... and getting used to this healthy reality?
Me? I'm crushless. No prospects for crushes or dating or anything (right now)... And kinda OK with that. Which is a little weird for me. But I think I'll adjust! =)
I'd like to meet an amazing guy, but not just for the sake of having a dinner companion, ya know? Anyway... I'm not exactly freaking out about having no prospects (currently), but I am slightly bummed about it.
I am sooooo glad that I don't have any crushes/obsessions. Wow! The freedom!!!!! No inner craziness... (unless it's my own weirdness! heh, heh!!).
Are you experiencing some emotional/mental space you haven't had for a while? Would you like to share about it? (Go into as few or as many details as you wish, of course.)
This sounds like a revolutionary new med commercial, or Ronco product ad.
We have not had a decent rain for quite some time here. I am looking, I am, I am! I'm not into spotting. Crushing anyone? You mean pouring a perfectly good soft drink on someone, like on the coach after a victory? Then I'm not doing that either. It's healthy to not be?
I'm in a state of continual satisfaction with the little things of life- that the big things have picked up and moved on, as it were. The future is too far away, my past seems a lot closer, and my daily walk with the Lord is always eagerly anticipated. There's a lot to be done before considering a SO in life, but I'm no longer going to wait until I am thinking I'm without a doubt ready to try again before I do look for that dinner companion who is also an amazing (wonder?) woman.
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/15/2008 4:36:18 AM
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Yes I fit into this thread. I have no one right now. I will say this though to encourage everyone to keep waiting on Gods best for them. Thats what I was doing for seven years and I think something happened and I became very discouraged and lonely and insecure that God was not going to bring someone in my life. I think, no I KNOW it was the enemy and I took things into my own hands and dated a non-believer for a while. Things went really bad of course.
The enemy played with my mind though. He kept insisting that I was asking for too much, that my LIST was too long and I would not find that kind of Christian guy. I was weak, and vulnerable. So dont be fooled. I feel stronger now though. So to answer the question, yes now I am single, and prior to this I was single for 7 years just waiting on God. He recently told me that I need to give this up to Him too becasue I cant wait my whole life for a mate. If it happens it happens. If not than no. Im just drawing closer to Him after all this and working on lifes issues with HIm right now. There is no one, not even one in my life right now. Im okay with it becasue there are some things that need to be set in order first before someone comes along. =)
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/16/2008 6:22:18 PM
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Meh? I will go to look at the abbreviations listings...
is this a derivative of womeh?
I know of eh, huh, nah, and this is not the first time I've seen meh, but really, meh?
I hope it's there, otherwise I'll be back.
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RE: No crushes, no prospects for dating.... good? bad? ... - 11/16/2008 11:03:33 PM
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Much to my surprise, 'meh' does not appear in the helpful abbreviation thread over in the newbie section. So, Grace-N-Mercy, once again, you called it right.
Mmmmuh - now that... but anyone can figure that one.
Meh? Is that a maybeh? meh?
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