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WHY CHURCH? - 11/6/2008 3:21:50 PM
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DuckTalk
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For years, I have wondered about this three-fold question I pose; 1. What "draws" people to go to church first 2. Then what directs them to "which" church they choose to go to. 3. And what "keeps" them there. Please, open for all to answer.
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/6/2008 4:12:44 PM
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ORIGINAL: misunderstoodduck For years, I have wondered about this three-fold question I pose; 1. What "draws" people to go to church first 2. Then what directs them to "which" church they choose to go to. 3. And what "keeps" them there. Please, open for all to answer. All very good questions. For me, what "draws" people to go to church first? Usually, it's the "direction" of someone, whether it's a parent or grandparent. Or, perhaps the "testimony" of a believer to someone who is 'unchurched' will get someone thinking that perhaps church is for them. Perhaps it's an "outreach" ministry....our church is relentless in this: biblically-based financial planning seminars, sports ministry, a pregnancy crisis center, etc..etc...they assist those from within the community with their needs, and, as a result, many of those people do get further involved with the church, accept Christ, etc..etc...Or, a co-worker invites someone from work to their church's christmas program, and, while there, he/she hears the Word of God and Gospel taught... What directs them as to WHICH church? All depends on the person. Perhaps you go to a particular church because that's just where you've always gone, or you were invited there by friends, or you know that a particular church has a good reputation for strong biblical teaching.....for us, it was definitely "trial and error". We visited countless churches in our area, before finally making the prayerful decision that our current church was where God wanted us to be. What keeps them there? Spiritual growth, fellowship and the "connection" with others in the church, the strong biblical teaching....(those are at least a FEW of the reasons why we continue to attend the church we do...after 6 years of going there) 6 years ago, we left a church, and searched for another. We left because we were not growing spiritually....the teaching became biblically weak, and after 4 or so years there, we didn't really feel "a part of" the church, or felt a "connection" with really anyone there. So, we left, and no one really noticed. “Let us not neglect to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day draw near.” –Hebrews 10:25
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/6/2008 5:06:41 PM
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Thank you kernsfamily for your well thought out response. I too, am in a quandary as you were 6 years ago and having difficulty finding a home church, but a wise man once said, (to paraphrase) "You can continue your search for the perfect church, but as soon as you attend, it will no longer be perfect" and that is my fear......that I may be searching for something that simply does not exist. I am not seeking a perfect church, just a good old fashioned church that is focused solely on the gospel and witness outreach. Just when I think I do, the preacher says something like, "John Wesley took witnessing the gospel seriously and worked fervently to do so for God & he didn't even have the right doctrine". One lousy suffix to a single sentence was so derrogatory about a man & his life's work that it sounded unchristian coming from the pulpit. A preacher should be the example to his people, in conduct, love, in spirit, faith, and purity. Somehow when he speaks negatively about another (other than a sinful other & even then, he should not state names), it says to me, this is not the man I need to be listening to. Are there any simple churches out there that accept people simply as they are and the preacher preaches simply the gospel and simply remains above reproach? It IS that simple.
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/6/2008 5:36:32 PM
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Are there any simple churches out there that accept people simply as they are and the preacher preaches simply the gospel and simply remains above reproach? Not quite sure what you mean by "simple churches", but when it comes to accepting people simply as they are....the preacher simply preaching the gospel and remaining above reproach? That explains my church....and, many other churches out there, as well. For us, it was a matter of PRAYER... quote:
Somehow when he speaks negatively about another (other than a sinful other & even then, he should not state names), it says to me, this is not the man I need to be listening to. when we heard many "negative perceptions' about our church (before we visited for the first time), we "believed it all", and were intent on not visiting there. Then, at God's insistence, we did decide to check it out FOR OURSELVES. And, found all those "negative perception" that we had heard to be baseless....and not really accurate....they were "perceptions" put out by people who had never even been to the church before. My church certainly isn't perfect....but, as you said, none are. It's just like what an economics professor in college would say about Capitalism, "It isn't perfect....nothing is...but, it's the closest thing to perfect so far" You've just got to go and attend/visit all the churches you can....and visit/check them out....and pray...be patient, as it may take a while......and, you'll eventually come around to one that you know is "home"...
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/6/2008 11:23:18 PM
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ORIGINAL: misunderstoodduck For years, I have wondered about this three-fold question I pose; 1. What "draws" people to go to church first 2. Then what directs them to "which" church they choose to go to. 3. And what "keeps" them there. Please, open for all to answer. Wow... Good questions! I have thought about this before... but maybe not quite like this... or maybe kinda. (I have a lot on my mind tonight... so bear with me ) I'll start with #2 (which I think also answers #1)... I believe the Holy Spirit (if we're led by the Spirit... or allow Him to lead) directs us... draws us... leads us. It could be in many different ways... and I believe that God places us in churches where we will grow. Of course, we need to be open to growth and have a teachable spirit. I guess my thinking in this is that we, the body, are comprised of so many different personalities, needs, etc... for example... a rather shy Conservative new believer may be led by God to a Conservative style church... where others may be led to Pentecostal churches, etc. and for #3... many different things. It could be a person who is comfortable right where they are... no desire to grow... and the church may be one that does everything status quo... no change... the "that's the way we've always done it" church. In that case... their complacent spirit keeps them there. For some who are thriving and growing and learning and teaching and leading in a church... God keeps them there to continue growing and learning and... well you get it. However... In that same church ( the last one we looked at) God may want to move you from that church to one that isn't doing all too well, so that you can, through Christ, impart the knowledge of the growing and the learning and... everything else. So... after all that Babbling... I'd say for #1 and 2... it's the Holy Spirit. and #3... I don't think there is any one answer. Did I help... or did I just confuse you more. I think I confused myself. I need some sleep!
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/7/2008 7:21:24 AM
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ORIGINAL: misunderstoodduck For years, I have wondered about this three-fold question I pose; 1. What "draws" people to go to church first Being saved? quote:
2. Then what directs them to "which" church they choose to go to. Hopefully lead by the Holy Spirit on a journey to truth. I think it is healthy to experience different denominations once a person is established in their faith. quote:
3. And what "keeps" them there. Agreeing with their church? Liking the programs? Adoring the pastor? Assembling with their friends? How about simply desiring fellowship of believers and loving the brethren?
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/7/2008 5:38:22 PM
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Hello Misunderstoodduck 1. What "draws" people to go to church first 2. Then what directs them to "which" church they choose to go to. 3. And what "keeps" them there. As far as I'm concerned all three questions can be answered by much the same words. I got to church to hear a positive message. Such is impossible to come by through our media on either side. I attend a church where the fulness of Jesus Christ is preached. He is the only hope that mankind has. He is life and without Him living in me, I am fully dead. He is light and therefore, light dwells in me and cancels the darkness that this world placed into me.
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/7/2008 7:46:27 PM
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ORIGINAL: misunderstoodduck For years, I have wondered about this three-fold question I pose; 1. What "draws" people to go to church first The Holy Spirit 2. Then what directs them to "which" church they choose to go to. The Holy Spirit 3. And what "keeps" them there. The Holy Spirit Please, open for all to answer.
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/8/2008 8:22:36 PM
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ORIGINAL: misunderstoodduck For years, I have wondered about this three-fold question I pose; 1. What "draws" people to go to church first It doesn't matter quote:
2. Then what directs them to "which" church they choose to go to. This also doesn't matter quote:
3. And what "keeps" them there. It still doesn't matter. Usually the answer to all three is "felt needs," but is that what the scripture says? Are you running a church or a Country Club? see: http://www.livingwaters.com/good/ Please, open for all to answer.
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/10/2008 12:18:25 PM
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ORIGINAL: Dan1138 It doesn't matter This also doesn't matter It still doesn't matter. Only to you. If anything at all matters, then everything matters. At least to someone, somewhere, somehow. Everything matters or it simply would not be.
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/10/2008 5:05:38 PM
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ORIGINAL: Liveloved 1. What "draws" people to go to church first The Holy Spirit Not programs or people of like interests? 2. Then what directs them to "which" church they choose to go to. The Holy Spirit Why do you suppose the Holy Spirit would not guide me to an all African American AME church, as well as a snowy white Lutheran church?Or are you saying the HS is in one, but not the other? 3. And what "keeps" them there. The Holy Spirit Not programs or people of like interests? That would be great if it were a fact, as the Holy Spirit definitely should be our guide, but if that TRULY were to be the case, I should think there would be no segregation, don't you?
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/11/2008 11:41:23 AM
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ORIGINAL: misunderstoodduck For years, I have wondered about this three-fold question I pose; 1. What "draws" people to go to church first 2. Then what directs them to "which" church they choose to go to. 3. And what "keeps" them there. Please, open for all to answer. Hello! Depending on mans response to God and his thirst for truth and growth, he will come to the right church and stay for no plants ever grow mature being often transferred. People seeks for TRUTH, BELONGINGNESS and SECURITY. The church must be relevant yet remain to be Biblically sound; and, Christians who really mean it will gladly stay. Godspeed! Thanks,
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/13/2008 11:43:57 PM
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ORIGINAL: DuckTalk quote:
ORIGINAL: Dan1138 It doesn't matter This also doesn't matter It still doesn't matter. Only to you. Does God care how many butts are in the pews? Does God care about marketing plans? Duck are you a good person???
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/13/2008 11:47:52 PM
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ORIGINAL: ezerfi quote:
ORIGINAL: misunderstoodduck For years, I have wondered about this three-fold question I pose; 1. What "draws" people to go to church first 2. Then what directs them to "which" church they choose to go to. 3. And what "keeps" them there. Please, open for all to answer. Hello! Depending on mans response to God and his thirst for truth and growth, he will come to the right church and stay for no plants ever grow mature being often transferred. People seeks for TRUTH, BELONGINGNESS and SECURITY. The church must be relevant yet remain to be Biblically sound; and, Christians who really mean it will gladly stay. Godspeed! Thanks, My Bible doesn't say "relevant" or "culturally relevant." That is a lie from the pit of hell. That is why organized religion will always fail. Organized religion is usually led by man and if not led by sinful man then it will be knocked off track by sinful men and women. Support yourself from Scripture Alone!
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/14/2008 9:50:40 AM
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ORIGINAL: DuckTalk For years, I have wondered about this three-fold question I pose; 1. What "draws" people to go to church first 2. Then what directs them to "which" church they choose to go to. 3. And what "keeps" them there. Please, open for all to answer. Interesting questions you pose! I think one answer to all of the question is the Holy Spirit. But how he does that can look differently. Response to question 1 - Sometimes people go to church because it is their cultural tradition. Sometimes people feel like they are missing something in their lives, so they try church to see if that will help fill the void. There are people who feel that they can make friends, or find a partner at a church. Some go there to network their business. Some go to seek God. Response to question 2 -It is interesting when you study family and organizational systems. While we'd like to often think that the Spirit is directing us as to "which" church we should attend (and of course it does) often we choose a particular church because it mirrors the system in which we grew up. If we grew up in a conservative family - strict even - we will probably lean toward attending a "strict" church. If we grew up with grace, we will probably be inclined to attend a church that mirrors grace. It is interesting when we begin to look at churches, and see that many people in a certain church deal with similar issues - this is an example of how that might look. It is fascinating to study this area. Response to question 3 - All of these questions have so many possible answers, don't you think?? One may stay because they have found a community with whom they'd like to journey. Perhaps they have found a place of comfort (be that a good comfort, or a complacent one :) Some people do not like to change, so they will never leave no matter what. And, some people have great loyalty in their personality, so that will keep them at a church, (again) no matter what. Perhaps they love the people, and know that this is their home. Sometimes, because of the "system" in place - they simply do not feel like they can leave. A church that I attended in the past considered you a traitor if you left... (example) It is fascinating to ponder isn't it?
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/14/2008 11:21:33 AM
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ORIGINAL: Dan1138 Does God care how many butts are in the pews? I do not know if He cares about the number of butts in pews, but I do know that God cares about how many buts we apply to scripture....but maybe it's not, but perhaps it is, but if only, but I. "Church" is mentioned numerous times in the bible, so many that I will not quote them here as it would take up pages. Surely it is important to God for Him to have mentioned it to us in a reinforcing & corrective manner so many times. quote:
ORIGINAL: Dan1138 Does God care about marketing plans? I do know that God wants us to market for Him . We just refer to it as witnessing, so yes...then I believe He does care, VERY MUCH about that particular marketing plan. Problem is, a lot of churches market for self, not for God. Evidently you have seen this. quote:
ORIGINAL: Dan1138 Duck are you a good person??? No. There is only One who is truly good & I constantly strive to be as He is. quote:
ORIGINAL: Dan1138 Organized religion is usually led by man and if not led by sinful man then it will be knocked off track by sinful men and women. Yes, however if you are truly in the scripture, reading, seeking understanding, praying & applying it, then you will have read all those warnings God gave us against false religions, man made religions, religiosity, etc., particularly in I Corinthians and He clearly tells us how to deal with it. No where does He even remotely suggest that we sit back or walk away and passively allow sinful man to knock it off track. quote:
ORIGINAL: Dan1138 Support yourself from Scripture Alone! AMEN! Just be sure to read it, seek knowledge of it & listen to God, not your head because scripture clearly makes mention of churches & how they are to be pure. Agreed though, that there are more man made religions & churches than God ordained ones, but the bible clearly warns against this and tells us that there will be more and more toward the end. Are you giving up?
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/14/2008 12:23:05 PM
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ORIGINAL: Liveloved 1. What "draws" people to go to church first The Holy Spirit Not programs or people of like interests? 2. Then what directs them to "which" church they choose to go to. The Holy Spirit Why do you suppose the Holy Spirit would not guide me to an all African American AME church, as well as a snowy white Lutheran church?Or are you saying the HS is in one, but not the other? 3. And what "keeps" them there. The Holy Spirit Not programs or people of like interests? God has a particular calling for each individual and each congregation. While we may choose based on doctrinal stances, friendships or programs; ultimately we are responsible to hear the Holy Spirit for ourselves to determine where we shoud be. One wise pastor told us (the board of a church I used to be part of) that we should know our calling as a congregation and have it so well focused that good solid believers with a different calling would not fit in there. If you are a welder, why would you want to work at a donut bakery?
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/14/2008 1:28:21 PM
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ORIGINAL: DaveW God has a particular calling for each individual and each congregation. While we may choose based on doctrinal stances, friendships or programs; ultimately we are responsible to hear the Holy Spirit for ourselves to determine where we shoud be. One wise pastor told us (the board of a church I used to be part of) that we should know our calling as a congregation and have it so well focused that good solid believers with a different calling would not fit in there. That sounds alot better than the priest I heard say, "Church is like dinnerware. Some people prefer to eat off of china, while another may like paper plates. As long as we are eating of the same meal, it should not matter". This is not a good metaphor. It is obvious to me now that he was justifying his taste for the elaborate & costly crystal & china while other people were starving. It is also saying that "any" doctrine is all right as long as it worships God, but I believe that the old saying that "the road to hell is paved with good intentions" holds true. quote:
ORIGINAL: DaveW If you are a welder, why would you want to work at a donut bakery? Good point, but I do sometimes visit the donut bakery and really enjoy it!
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/14/2008 3:04:14 PM
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The purpose of 'church' is 'to edify one another'. But in the modern 'church' this is impossible while staring at the back of somebody's head for an hour. The word 'church' is not in the N.T. except for one place in the book of Acts where it is describing pagan temples. Church defined as 'a building set apart for public worship' is a misnomer. Ekklesia is the greek denoting 'called out ones' or those people who are called by God. So the main purpose of our gathering in the first place has been lost long ago in about the 1700's. This would explain clearly why we, as the body, have no effect on the world around us.....like we should.
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/14/2008 3:17:04 PM
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The purpose of 'church' is 'to edify one another'. But in the modern 'church' this is impossible while staring at the back of somebody's head for an hour. if "staring at the back of somebody's head for an hour" is the ONLY thing you're doing in church....either you need to work harder to "edify one another"...or, find another church that will allow that to happen.... In my "modern church", "edifying one another", as well as many other things (spreading the gospel, teaching/discipleship, etc..etc..), are all done quite well. (not to "toot my own church's horn" or anything....)
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/14/2008 5:01:53 PM
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ORIGINAL: rolling The purpose of 'church' is 'to edify one another'. But in the modern 'church' this is impossible while staring at the back of somebody's head for an hour. So just how were they seated in the ancient temples? Stadium seating, perhaps? quote:
ORIGINAL: rolling The word 'church' is not in the N.T. except for one place in the book of Acts where it is describing pagan temples. Church defined as 'a building set apart for public worship' is a misnomer. It is clear in the bible that the Church is the Body of Christ. Some choose to do so corporately as well as individually. Are we living & acting out a misnomer by claiming to belong to the Body corporately? quote:
ORIGINAL: rolling Ekklesia is the greek denoting 'called out ones' or those people who are called by God. So the main purpose of our gathering in the first place has been lost long ago in about the 1700's. Are you suggesting that God no longer calls us out? quote:
ORIGINAL: rolling This would explain clearly why we, as the body, have no effect on the world around us.....like we should. If I thought that God has not called me out & that I have no effect, then why on earth would I spend my time futiley? I feel that should I leave this place having inspired only one single life to seek God, then I will have been most effective. If one more member of this Body does the same, we will have been TWICE as effective, and on and on, so confirms the purpose of the Church.
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/14/2008 5:40:49 PM
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Duck - Could you clarify what you mean by "called out"? thx
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/14/2008 5:46:23 PM
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ORIGINAL: floydette Duck - Could you clarify what you mean by "called out"? thx I refer to rolling's definition: quote:
ORIGINAL: rolling Ekklesia is the greek denoting 'called out ones' or those people who are called by God.
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/14/2008 6:46:49 PM
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ORIGINAL: DuckTalk For years, I have wondered about this three-fold question I pose; 1. What "draws" people to go to church first 2. Then what directs them to "which" church they choose to go to. 3. And what "keeps" them there. Please, open for all to answer. I am drawn to a church that follows the Bible, the Word. What keeps me there is that they continue to follow the Word. What directs me there is the Spirit. Those are my personal answers.
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RE: WHY CHURCH? - 11/14/2008 8:35:53 PM
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Strongs concordance. ekklesia: called out. As the children of Israel were called out of Egypt so we are called out of this present world system. Most churches do not operate according to 1Cor.12 where all the body parts operated in their functions.
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