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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 3:46:19 PM
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atruefaith
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I really feel like the devil has won this battle, and it's killing me! I hate how I'm feeling! I hate the questions! And most of all, I hate not being able to trust God with this! Do I accept this? Did God truly not come through on this for me? Is it me, not accepting no from Him? Is He mad with me? Am I failure in His eyes? Is He mad because I feel the devil has won this? What is going on with me!?!?!?!? This divorce, should have never happened. He was influenced by his family. They never spoke it to my face, but his mom never wanted it to happen, she was and is very protective of him, and she felt she lost her baby boy, so when our problems began, she was there, I know in my heart, maybe not to encourage him to do this to me, but I don't feel she encouraged him to do what is right.
Hi Dawn. I have just two questions for you to consider. They are not easy questions to ask and they are certainly even tougher to answer. But here goes:
Do you think that you’d be asking these deep, necessary questions about your faith and heart had this suffering never found you?
From an eternal perspective, which do you believe is more desirable and beneficial to you: An eternity with Christ or a happy marriage here on earth?
And hopefully I can convince you that these questions are not without empathy or compassion. You are in my prayers.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 3:46:57 PM
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Misty - I have just read your posts and I praise God for what He is doing in your heart. It is so wonderful to see the Lord work in people's hearts and lives through such difficulties so that they can "comfort others with the comfort which they too have received of the Lord."
The Lord bless you and likewise Dawn. You have both been traveling a difficult road but it is evident that the Lord is with you both even although you are both at different points in the journey.
God bless
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 3:50:45 PM
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First of all, is/was your husband a Christian?
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Yes, we were in church together. And from what I understand, he is still going. He didn't divorce me for another woman, and I have always been faithful to him. We were having difficulties, and he wanted out from under the stress. I just never believed that this was going to happen. But it has.
Are you assuming that your husband is/was a Christian because he went to church? Or are you saying yes he is a Christian and we went to church together?
I will pray for you. Will post more later.
We did go to church together, and from what I understand, he is still going to church. I was ask the question if he was truly a Christian, and yes, I thought so, but now, Im questioning everything.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 3:51:31 PM
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Dawn, one of the most ouchie things I've learned is that we just don't always get to know how it will turn out. I hate not knowing, but I think that's how we learn to depend on God. He knows, He has it under control, and you just stay faithful to Him. He'll see you through. And even if you don't see any possible way for things to get better God still has a way of turning bad into good.
This scripture has always given me a lot of hope and it came to mind as I was typing, hopefully it will bring hope to you as well.
Job 17:7,8,9 For there is hope for a tree, if it is cut down, that it will sprout again, and that its tender shoots will not cease. Thought its root may grow old in the earth, and its stump may die in the ground, yet at the scent of water it will bud and bring forth branches like a plant.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 3:55:43 PM
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My_Redeemer_Lives08
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I really feel like the devil has won this battle, and it's killing me! I hate how I'm feeling! I hate the questions! And most of all, I hate not being able to trust God with this! Do I accept this? Did God truly not come through on this for me? Is it me, not accepting no from Him? Is He mad with me? Am I failure in His eyes? Is He mad because I feel the devil has won this? What is going on with me!?!?!?!? This divorce, should have never happened. He was influenced by his family. They never spoke it to my face, but his mom never wanted it to happen, she was and is very protective of him, and she felt she lost her baby boy, so when our problems began, she was there, I know in my heart, maybe not to encourage him to do this to me, but I don't feel she encouraged him to do what is right.
Hi Dawn. I have just two questions for you to consider. They are not easy questions to ask and they are certainly even tougher to answer. But here goes:
Do you think that you’d be asking these deep, necessary questions about your faith and heart had this suffering never found you?
From an eternal perspective, which do you believe is more desirable and beneficial to you: An eternity with Christ or a happy marriage here on earth?
And hopefully I can convince you that these questions are not without empathy or compassion. You are in my prayers.
For the first question, the answer is no, I know for sure, that if everything were going the way that "I" wanted them to be going, I would not be questioning anything. I know this for sure. And Im hoping, when this trial is over, that I will have a deeper faith, one that is unshakable, because right now, its being shaken. I love the Lord with all my heart, so please, no one think that I don't. That would kill me if anyone thought that. I'm just trying to sort all this out.
Second question, the answer is an eternity with Christ about it. But it doesn't sound like it, does it? And that's not what I want people to think, so please don't bash me on this. I don't think I'm up for it.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 4:02:51 PM
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Misty - I have just read your posts and I praise God for what He is doing in your heart. It is so wonderful to see the Lord work in people's hearts and lives through such difficulties so that they can "comfort others with the comfort which they too have received of the Lord."
The Lord bless you and likewise Dawn. You have both been traveling a difficult road but it is evident that the Lord is with you both even although you are both at different points in the journey.
God bless
Little_1 xx
Thank you 
It hasn't been easy, I have had so many bad days, but good ones also. I know exactly what Dawn is feeling. I can relate so much to her. It's a hurt, that is so deep, that there are no words for it. And you know God hasn't left you, but you can feel so alone. It's undescribeable, and if someone hasn't been at this place, where Dawn is, something Im still dealing with as well, it can be really hard to relate too, but with everyone here, assuring her, and at the same time, this is helping me a great deal, along with Scripture, it's a tremendous help. I hope everyone here knows, that it's times like this, when we pull together for someone, in prayer, the hand of God begins to move. Thank you Jesus!
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 4:07:22 PM
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dawn
have you stopped long enough to realize your relationship with the Lord has absolutely NOTHING to do with your personal feelings? Don't allow the enemy to bring fear into your life because of a wild mixture of emotions you are having. Almost anyone going through an experience such as yours would have many of the same emotions.
Try to focus on the STEADFAST LOVE of the Lord. His LOVE for you never ceases and His mercies NEVER comes to an end. You know satan tries so hard to capture our mind and make us doubt the love of God for us when things happen in this world, but we have to rebuke him, take captive every thought, and stand strong in the place we are now walking. God will not leave you. Take up the Sword of the Spirit and speak out loud everyday to the presence of God in your life.
Look at your feet. Then look at the footsteps of the one who walked before you. Did Jesus endure His suffering? Did He arise victorious? He will never call us to walk a path He knows we cannot make it through. Our way through is HIM. Leaning on Him, allowing His love to hold us steady, accepting His grace and mercy to see us through.
I gotta tell you something many people never realize Jesus is big enough to handle all your doubts, fears, questions, worries, and anything else that arises in your life.
Remember His words in the midst of the storm? PEACE BE STILL. Begin speaking that to the storms in your life and see what happens.
There is only 1 thing the devil has won and that is a sure destination where he will spend eternity. He is a liar and a deceiver and you have to stand strong and rebuke his lies.
You have the power within you...USE IT.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 4:18:01 PM
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dawn
have you stopped long enough to realize your relationship with the Lord has absolutely NOTHING to do with your personal feelings? Don't allow the enemy to bring fear into your life because of a wild mixture of emotions you are having. Almost anyone going through an experience such as yours would have many of the same emotions.
Try to focus on the STEADFAST LOVE of the Lord. His LOVE for you never ceases and His mercies NEVER comes to an end. You know satan tries so hard to capture our mind and make us doubt the love of God for us when things happen in this world, but we have to rebuke him, take captive every thought, and stand strong in the place we are now walking. God will not leave you. Take up the Sword of the Spirit and speak out loud everyday to the presence of God in your life.
Look at your feet. Then look at the footsteps of the one who walked before you. Did Jesus endure His suffering? Did He arise victorious? He will never call us to walk a path He knows we cannot make it through. Our way through is HIM. Leaning on Him, allowing His love to hold us steady, accepting His grace and mercy to see us through.
I gotta tell you something many people never realize Jesus is big enough to handle all your doubts, fears, questions, worries, and anything else that arises in your life.
Remember His words in the midst of the storm? PEACE BE STILL. Begin speaking that to the storms in your life and see what happens.
There is only 1 thing the devil has won and that is a sure destination where he will spend eternity. He is a liar and a deceiver and you have to stand strong and rebuke his lies.
You have the power within you...USE IT.
Thank you Buckifn, I have cried all day off and on. I know everyone here has spoke truth. I think that's where I'm going wrong. I'm not speaking out loud, I'm keeping it all to myself. And inside I feel like I'm going crazy. I know I need to do this, and I will start. Thanks.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 4:26:42 PM
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buckifn
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yw. and my prayers are with you...plus I wanted to suggest if you have some praise and worship music..maybe even instrumental without the words...put that on...and let it speak to your heart. begin praying out loud as the music ministers to you all that is in your heart. God wants to receive your cries.
Do you know in our worship the cries from the depths of our being- even and maybe esp. when we are troubled, those cries are an offering of worship to Him?
It is us choosing to lift our soul UP to God when everything else is trying to pull us DOWN.
I firmly believe 1 part of the Scripture which says the Joy of the Lord is our strength has to be connected with our learning how to find joy in Him even in our darkest day. The joy is not a fake joy...acting happy when we know we are dying inside..the true joy is in KNOWING Lord even though my heart is breaking I am calling on you and YOU ARE RIGHT HERE with me...walking through this valley with me.
I had to learn that when my previous wife died. The joy was in releasing my grief to God knowing He was not abandoning me nor letting me die in my sorrow.
Jesus grieved at the grave at Lazarus but He also called Lazarus forth didn't He.
Sometimes it is in our hurts that we have to allow the life of God to arise in us. That is my prayer for you today.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 4:47:02 PM
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My_Redeemer_Lives08
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yw. and my prayers are with you...plus I wanted to suggest if you have some praise and worship music..maybe even instrumental without the words...put that on...and let it speak to your heart. begin praying out loud as the music ministers to you all that is in your heart. God wants to receive your cries.
Do you know in our worship the cries from the depths of our being- even and maybe esp. when we are troubled, those cries are an offering of worship to Him?
It is us choosing to lift our soul UP to God when everything else is trying to pull us DOWN.
I firmly believe 1 part of the Scripture which says the Joy of the Lord is our strength has to be connected with our learning how to find joy in Him even in our darkest day. The joy is not a fake joy...acting happy when we know we are dying inside..the true joy is in KNOWING Lord even though my heart is breaking I am calling on you and YOU ARE RIGHT HERE with me...walking through this valley with me.
I had to learn that when my previous wife died. The joy was in releasing my grief to God knowing He was not abandoning me nor letting me die in my sorrow.
Jesus grieved at the grave at Lazarus but He also called Lazarus forth didn't He.
Sometimes it is in our hurts that we have to allow the life of God to arise in us. That is my prayer for you today.
Thank you, and I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Just reading your post, I know mine could be so much more worse, it's then I feel ashamed of my self-pity. You have helped me in so many ways.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 5:09:57 PM
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Oh dawn_s,
I'm with you in spirit, dear friend. I hear you. I feel your pain. And I will pray. You have been through alot. And you are still in the midst of it all.
You are dealing with one of the most basic questions of all---why does God allow evil? Why did He allow this to happen to me?
All I can tell you is what a very special woman wrote a number of years ago. Everything God does is love whether we understand it or not. Basilea Schlink
Don't try to make sense of all that you've gone through. You'll drive yourself crazy trying. Just believe that you are loved by the One Who made you.
It is only as we learn to rest and live in His love that we can let go of all the other attachments and distractions and hurts in life. Believe me. I'm speaking from experiences similar to yours---losses, wounds, brokenness and evil.
But God loved me through them and now I am able to truly live loved. It is all His doing. And He uses and allows some mighty painful and hard things in our lives to bring us to this place.
So I'm praying that the Lord leads you through this hurtful place and into the sunshine of His love. He will never leave you or forsake you. His love for you is everlasting. And you can rest against Him as a weaned child rests against his mother's breast.
He will lead you to that place of contented rest. Believe it. Believe Him. He will fulfill His promises to you and you will stand before Him blameless, sanctified entirely, spirit, soul and body. Hallelujah!
Bless you dear one, Liveloved
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 5:19:11 PM
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The LORD bless thee, and keep thee: The LORD make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee: The LORD lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 5:45:47 PM
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Church leaders need to see this thread in its entirety in order to provide your ex-husband with the helps he needs. It is obvious to me u hold fast your integrity as did Job in spite of the circumstances if indeed it was a temptation to sleep with your ex husband after he divorced you. If you were totally repulsed by his proposal and not tempted at all then that may be part of the problem. Also we do not know your husband's side of things not that it would matter under the circumstances you describe. Hopefully things will work out for u in the future.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 5:54:06 PM
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(((Dawn))) I'm so sorry you're going through this. Your husband blew it big time by divorcing you. You didn't divorce him.
Life is hard, and the guy bailed out - but I bet your wedding vows said "for better or worse." You guys got life, which is always hard, and he couldn't keep his promise. He made life easier on himself (for a little while) and made it much worse for you. God says a husband is to love his wife like Christ loved the Church and died for her - your husband failed, inspite of his vows. Imagine what it will be like one second after he dies and finds himself face to face with God who knows everything.
Your heart is broken, you have been betrayed, your husband is freely sinning. God will either let him continue to sin and die in it, or He will give him the holy 2x4 treatment upside the head and make it clear how badly he blew it and needs to fix it. And he will. If your now ex comes and gives you a half apology (not confession) or makes excuses about why it wasn't that bad, that's not repentence or godly remorse, and you're getting lied to. Don't buy it.
God allowed this to happen for whatever reason (just like Job never was told, either) but He can be trusted. Spurgeon, the Prince of Preachers (his sermons are still great to read), said when you can't trace God's hand you can trust God's heart. He does all things well and His provision and will for you will have you jumping for joy eventually. Rom. 8:28,29 infers that the good comes out of hardship and the purpose is to make us like Jesus, who knew suffering, too. He is shaping you and good will come to you.
God doesn't make people do wrong, He just lets them if they insist on it; and He makes silk out of ugly caterpillars for those who trust Him. Find a verse that speaks to you in your situation and get a death grip on it. Your situation will change, and God will show Himself faithful. Remember the cross was followed by an empty tomb which no one expected (even though Jesus kept telling them). Throw yourself at God's feet and let Him do whatever He wants. Then just trust Him minute by minute and get through the day in obedience. I am praying your situation will change very soon and leave you leaping in joy. And if not, then you will be even more like Jesus and He will meet your needs in other ways and use you to bless others greatly. Take comfort in Him, dear sister. God never makes mistakes and He loves you. You won't always be where you are now.
(((Dawn)))
And have no fear, dear one - God has it all in control and He knows your frame, that you are but dust. You are safe in His hand, even though you hurt. It will end well.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 6:08:55 PM
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Though the storms and dark clouds billow and seem to sway, hold fast sweet child, be still, and dawn will rise again to the sunlight showing God's full glory.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 6:21:31 PM
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Church leaders need to see this thread in its entirety in order to provide your ex-husband with the helps he needs. It is obvious to me u hold fast your integrity as did Job in spite of the circumstances if indeed it was a temptation to sleep with your ex husband after he divorced you. If you were totally repulsed by his proposal and not tempted at all then that may be part of the problem. Also we do not know your husband's side of things not that it would matter under the circumstances you describe. Hopefully things will work out for u in the future.
I really don't understand what your saying about taking it to the church leaders, please explain. And I NEVER said that I wasn't tempted, I still love this man, but he divorced me, and I wasn't about to go to bed with him, please explain what you mean on this also, "Because I wasn't tempted could be the problem?" Where did that come from? You have really confused me :(
I didn't fall into temptation, I could have easily, but I didn't. Just please explain what you mean. Thank you.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 6:25:27 PM
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(((Dawn))) I'm so sorry you're going through this. Your husband blew it big time by divorcing you. You didn't divorce him.
Life is hard, and the guy bailed out - but I bet your wedding vows said "for better or worse." You guys got life, which is always hard, and he couldn't keep his promise. He made life easier on himself (for a little while) and made it much worse for you. God says a husband is to love his wife like Christ loved the Church and died for her - your husband failed, inspite of his vows. Imagine what it will be like one second after he dies and finds himself face to face with God who knows everything.
Your heart is broken, you have been betrayed, your husband is freely sinning. God will either let him continue to sin and die in it, or He will give him the holy 2x4 treatment upside the head and make it clear how badly he blew it and needs to fix it. And he will. If your now ex comes and gives you a half apology (not confession) or makes excuses about why it wasn't that bad, that's not repentence or godly remorse, and you're getting lied to. Don't buy it.
God allowed this to happen for whatever reason (just like Job never was told, either) but He can be trusted. Spurgeon, the Prince of Preachers (his sermons are still great to read), said when you can't trace God's hand you can trust God's heart. He does all things well and His provision and will for you will have you jumping for joy eventually. Rom. 8:28,29 infers that the good comes out of hardship and the purpose is to make us like Jesus, who knew suffering, too. He is shaping you and good will come to you.
God doesn't make people do wrong, He just lets them if they insist on it; and He makes silk out of ugly caterpillars for those who trust Him. Find a verse that speaks to you in your situation and get a death grip on it. Your situation will change, and God will show Himself faithful. Remember the cross was followed by an empty tomb which no one expected (even though Jesus kept telling them). Throw yourself at God's feet and let Him do whatever He wants. Then just trust Him minute by minute and get through the day in obedience. I am praying your situation will change very soon and leave you leaping in joy. And if not, then you will be even more like Jesus and He will meet your needs in other ways and use you to bless others greatly. Take comfort in Him, dear sister. God never makes mistakes and He loves you. You won't always be where you are now.
(((Dawn)))
And have no fear, dear one - God has it all in control and He knows your frame, that you are but dust. You are safe in His hand, even though you hurt. It will end well.
Deermousie, thank you so much, while I was reading your post, I felt every word of it, it is so heart felt, and I thank you so much. I'm going to print it, and keep it with me :) It's words like yours and many others here, that I know God has spoken through today, and I feel so much better. I love you all!
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 6:28:15 PM
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The only thing I could take from church leaders to read this thread is for the empathy towards those that are trying to do their best to walk in God's will -- sometimes we do everything we can and the other persons heart is too hard. I don't know what your church leadership has and hasn't done in this situation but if your husband is attending unrepentant then probably some one at the church isn't quite doing their job.
As for someone not being tempted by an unrepentant spouse...is that really an issue? There is a whole lot more to a healthy relationship than sex. I would question your esteem for yourself if you had gone the other direction.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 6:41:06 PM
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dawn..go to rejoiceministries.org..its a great site you will spend hours there.and dont listen to anyone that says GOD has something better for you..hes does have something better for you and its your spouse and no one else. its GOD will that you and youre spouse stay together its made very clear in his word. so you got divorced thats because GOD isnt done with your spouse yet.pray without ceasing and stay in the word and sooner or later GOD will soften your husbands heart and change him from the inside out..but are you willing to fight no matter how long it takes?
and thats not to say you cant move on and find happiness and a great partner..but thats not GODS will..his will is for you to pray and surrender it to him and let him fight this fight and handle everything for you.God makes it perfectly clear in the bible that its his will for you to stay with your spouse..look at at what he says about marriage and divorce
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 6:43:21 PM
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The only thing I could take from church leaders to read this thread is for the empathy towards those that are trying to do their best to walk in God's will -- sometimes we do everything we can and the other persons heart is too hard. I don't know what your church leadership has and hasn't done in this situation but if your husband is attending unrepentant then probably some one at the church isn't quite doing their job.
As for someone not being tempted by an unrepentant spouse...is that really an issue? There is a whole lot more to a healthy relationship than sex. I would question your esteem for yourself if you had gone the other direction.
I feel like, if I had of gone to bed with him, I would have been doing wrong in the eyes of God, because it's sin. He divorced me, therefore, it just is not right that I have sex with him. I was doing what was right by the Word of God. My ex, went as far as to tell me, that in the eyes of God we are still married, so I said, "If that's the case, why did you divorce me?" He could not answer me. As far as church, I can no longer go there, that's where his family goes, and I just can't. I have been invited back, but I can't bring myself to go. They are aware of what has happened, and why, but as far as knowing about this past week, him asking me over, and wanting to go to bed with me, no, they do not know that, and I don't plan on sharing it with them.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 6:48:05 PM
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dawn..go to rejoiceministries.org..its a great site you will spend hours there.and dont listen to anyone that says GOD has something better for you..hes does have something better for you and its your spouse and no one else. its GOD will that you and youre spouse stay together its made very clear in his word. so you got divorced thats because GOD isnt done with your spouse yet.pray without ceasing and stay in the word and sooner or later GOD will soften your husbands heart and change him from the inside out..but are you willing to fight no matter how long it takes?
and thats not to say you cant move on and find happiness and a great partner..but thats not GODS will..his will is for you to pray and surrender it to him and let him fight this fight and handle everything for you.God makes it perfectly clear in the bible that its his will for you to stay with your spouse..look at at what he says about marriage and divorce
Ok, Thank you, I will go there and read. And this is just one of the things I battle with. Do I throw in the towel on this, or do I continue to pray for our marriage (well we are divorced) to be restored? I have so many questions. I have prayed for so long, that I sometimes feel like God is saying, accept this, it's over, and then I feel new hope, like He is saying, I'm here, and trust me with this. I'm just not sure how I should pray anymore.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 6:48:27 PM
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For the first question, the answer is no, I know for sure, that if everything were going the way that "I" wanted them to be going, I would not be questioning anything. I know this for sure. And Im hoping, when this trial is over, that I will have a deeper faith, one that is unshakable, because right now, its being shaken. I love the Lord with all my heart, so please, no one think that I don't. That would kill me if anyone thought that. I'm just trying to sort all this out.
The Gospel has good news for you. You will have a deeper faith.
In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 7These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. - 1 Peter 1:6-7
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Second question, the answer is an eternity with Christ about it. But it doesn't sound like it, does it? And that's not what I want people to think, so please don't bash me on this. I don't think I'm up for it.
Not bashing you at all and I'm not trying to pile on...just reminding you of what you already know.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 6:49:37 PM
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dawn..go to rejoiceministries.org..its a great site you will spend hours there.and dont listen to anyone that says GOD has something better for you..hes does have something better for you and its your spouse and no one else. its GOD will that you and youre spouse stay together its made very clear in his word. so you got divorced thats because GOD isnt done with your spouse yet.pray without ceasing and stay in the word and sooner or later GOD will soften your husbands heart and change him from the inside out..but are you willing to fight no matter how long it takes?
and thats not to say you cant move on and find happiness and a great partner..but thats not GODS will..his will is for you to pray and surrender it to him and let him fight this fight and handle everything for you.God makes it perfectly clear in the bible that its his will for you to stay with your spouse..look at at what he says about marriage and divorce
While the resource link is probably a good thing...I believe if you read through the thread you will see that Dawn has been trying to reconcile the relationship although they are already divorced. I think it would be a misjustice for her to allow this man back into her life with no change, no repentance, no restoration. But still, he hasn't shown any of these signs of healing the relationship. I would caution given these details to "guilt" someone that they aren't trying hard enough. I know if her husband choose the will of God to restore the marriage that IS God's will but sometimes the other spouses heart is too hard. Wasn't it Jesus that mentioned the hardness of heart as why divorce happens?
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 6:50:17 PM
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For the first question, the answer is no, I know for sure, that if everything were going the way that "I" wanted them to be going, I would not be questioning anything. I know this for sure. And Im hoping, when this trial is over, that I will have a deeper faith, one that is unshakable, because right now, its being shaken. I love the Lord with all my heart, so please, no one think that I don't. That would kill me if anyone thought that. I'm just trying to sort all this out.
The Gospel has good news for you. You will have a deeper faith.
In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 7These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. - 1 Peter 1:6-7
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Second question, the answer is an eternity with Christ about it. But it doesn't sound like it, does it? And that's not what I want people to think, so please don't bash me on this. I don't think I'm up for it.
Not bashing you at all and I'm not trying to pile on...just reminding you of what you already know.
So do you think I'm putting too much attention on asking God to do this? Please help me out here :(
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 6:51:13 PM
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Do I throw in the towel on this, or do I continue to pray for our marriage to be restored?
One more thing...how about neither? What if you pray for a greater joy in Jesus and pray for your marriage with the expectation that whether or not you reconcile, God will prevail in your life and you will persevere towards a reward 10,000 times greater than the most perfect husband!
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